4 Mistakes to Avoid When Hiring Your First (or Next) Virtual Assistant

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Whether you’re ready to hire a VA (like yesterday) or are intending to hire one in the near future, this post will help you to prepare well. It’s also going to save you from hiring someone who is not really a good fit for you and your needs.

A few weeks ago a girlfriend posted asking for advice about hiring her first VA, and then a former client of mine asked me about the hiring process, and I knew it was time to write this so that more women could benefit from it.

So, if you need to hire help in growing your business and body of work, and you want to do it well the first time around, let’s dive right in:

1. Don’t Hire a Shadow VA (I Repeat: DON’T Hire a Shadow VA).

Have you ever heard of the term ‘shadow artist’ by artist and author Julia Cameron? If not, here’s the skinny: a shadow artist is an artist in hiding — an artist that hangs around other artists but doesn’t make her own art. In some ways, she denies her gifts (and what she really wants for herself), while she unconsciously fills a void by hanging around others that are doing the work she wants to do.

Look, there are virtual assistants who do NOT want to be virtual assistants, floating around everywhere in the online space. VA work is a means to an end for them. Like, they don’t actually want to take tasks and to-do’s off your plate, they’d rather be in your shoes. Usually it goes something like this: someone who wants to be running her own visionary or mission-based business says, “let me work for someone who is doing what I want to do so I can learn from them while I grow.”

And while the desire to work for someone who is doing what you want to do might seem innocent and even intelligent, in my honest opinion, it quickly becomes a conflict of interest. 



Here’s the thing: as someone who LOVES to pass off the not so exciting tasks and to-do’s to someone else, I can tell you that the energy exchange between you and the VA is everything. You DO NOT want to feel like you’re burdening someone with the tasks you’re assigning to them. NO. You want to feel excited to give them the tasks, and you want to feel that they receive them with arms wide open.



I know, I know, it IS strange (to me at least) that some people actually want to handle things like customer service, scheduling emails, setting up automations, handling client care, sending agreements, setting up opt-in pages, tracking data etc. etc. but trust me, those people DO exist and they are a total joy to work with, because you feel GREAT giving them those tasks.

What I want to help you avoid here is a) holding back the tasks and to-do’s you most need help with because you feel the person on the receiving end of said tasks is annoyed or not excited by them and b) getting into a short term work scenario in which the VA soon decides that she needs to up-level and step into her vision.

While you will want to cheer her on (rightfully so) you’ve just spent your precious energy and time training her, and now you’ll need to start over with someone new.

My fool-proof method for vetting out the shadow VAs? Ask each VA you interview a series of questions that helps you to see their big vision for themselves and their life. If their genius zone and vision for themselves doesn’t involve working on a team for you, or for someone like you, they’re not the right person for the job. Next! 


The second mistake to avoid when hiring a VA is…

2. Not Knowing What You Need (Very Specifically) Before Hiring.

Make a list of exactly what you’ll be delegating, before you start looking for someone.

What are the programs and apps you need this person to be proficient in? What tasks will you be sending to them? What are you MOST excited about taking off your plate? Keep a piece of paper near your computer or work space, and every time you catch yourself doing something you don’t really feel is the BEST use of your time, write it down. You can go back later and categorize some of these tasks or ‘energy leaks’.

Think of this as you getting clear with the Universe. You’re like, “Hey God, hey Universe, I need a supportive person to help me with my mission.” If you’re not clear on what the person will need to help you with, you’re not going to know how to choose the best fit for you, when you start the hiring process (even though you’re highly intuitive, clarity on this is still so vital).

This leads right into the third mistake to avoid…



3. Hiring Without Assigning a Test Project 



It’s not only vital that you know what tasks and to-do’s this person can take off your plate. It’s also vital that you get to know who they are. Their energy and their vibe matters. You’re going to be working closely with this person, you know? You want it to be an uplifting and supportive match. This is why I recommend having a ‘trial period’ through a test project. After the project, if you’re happy with the way it went, you can officially bring them on board. 

The test project will help you determine things like:

  • Can they communicate openly, clearly, and effectively?

  • Are they late to meetings?

  • Do they make excuses, or do they own their shortcomings and mistakes?

  • Are they happy?

  • Do they have a problem solving mindset? 
Do they gossip?

  • Do they take pride in their work?


  • Are they so bogged down by 100 clients that they bring stress into your business and creative space?

You won’t know the answers to these questions until you get started on a project together. Make an agreement to start with a test project (you of course pay them for this) and at the end of the project you can determine if you want to bring them on board, fully. 



Which leads me to ONE more mistake I want you to avoid…


4. Hiring Someone Who Doesn’t Take The Initiative 



You’re already busy. You have enough on your plate. The last thing you need is someone asking you step by step instructions on how to do something that they can easily google or find the answer for in a forum somewhere. Hire someone who can receive a task, and figure that sh*t out for you, without you needing to be super involved.



If you loved this and found it helpful, leave me an emoji in the comments below.

And, if you’ve started the process of hiring a VA leave me a ‘1’ in the comments, and if you’re ready to get started (especially after reading this) leave me a ‘2’. 



Big Love,



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Permission to Prosper: How to Cultivate Your Sexual Energy to Manifest Like a Queen

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If we're going to have a conscious conversation around money, sexual energy, and manifestation we need to lay out a solid foundation before we walk through.

We also need to ditch the shame + secrecy around wanting more, because there's nothing wrong with financial well-being in your life.

Money is a neutral form of energetic exchange. And energy is spirit in motion. Money is spiritual. Because money is neutral, it can become a vehicle for what you value.

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You might value travel, art, and adventure. Or maybe your top priority is re-investing in your business and personal growth. Whatever is on your list know this: Money in your hands is a force for good.

Money in your hands is different than in anyone else's hands on the planet. Why? Because there is only one Y-O-U.

You'll need money to traverse this physical plane and wandering without it isn't enjoyable. Am I right?!

If money is neutral and just an exchange for what you value, why is there so much baggage + wounding in relationship to it?

Why are some of us struggling while others are staying at the Ritz? Why are there big-hearted consciousness-raisin' people who struggle to make ends meet?

Here are 9 opportunities to explore your psyche:

  • Did your parents argue about money?

  • Did you have enough?

  • What was your mother's relationship to money?

  • If you had plenty of it, were other kids jealous?

  • Did someone tell you that the 'meek will inherit the earth'?

  • Were you conditioned to buy the cheapest things?

  • Or were you sent off to a prestigious college without a financial care?

  • Was any of your early education dedicated to teaching you how to build wealth?

Answer these questions to get a glimpse into your current mind-body-money-relationship. They'll help you make some deep + fundamental changes in your beliefs and emotional patterns.

Now that we've done some unearthing I want you to know that you have extraordinary power. Exercising that power is not wrong or bad. When sex, money, and power are heart-guided they become beautiful expressions of your unique essence.

Sexual energy can be cultivated and directed to energize your manifesting power i.e. stoke your ultimate creative potential.

Imagine if you were very quiet, and the cosmos couldn't hear you when you spoke. Now, imagine your heart-body-mind beaming powerfully in all directions. Which would you prefer?

Sexual energy is the juice of all life, it's the creative energy of the cosmos, it's the river beneath the river, it's what creates all things epic, every painting, poem, gold metal, and fulfilled pursuit is the result of desire and the willingness to let it rise within.

Yet sexual energy has been demonized in the same way that money has. And because of this, we're still working to heal centuries of deep sexual suppression.

We've been so strongly influenced to believe that a sexual woman is a temptress, out to manipulate and distract man from the God-force. 

It's the opposite. Your sexuality is your bridge to the Divine. Dare to awaken it's potential to heal, restore, and guide you on your path. 

What would happen if you gave yourself permission to experience ecstasy, bliss, and pleasure whether on your meditation cushion or in your bed? What would happen if you relaxed, opened, and expanded your capacity to receive? What would happen if you decided that you were worthy of total integration?

One thing is for certain and it's that you'd be less likely to reject all the magic when it shows up for you.

In a culture that has conditioned you to believe that giving is a more sacred than receiving it's important work to expand your capacity to receive. 

If you haven't yet given yourself permission to create a new level of financial well-being and mind-bending pleasure, this is your big invitation.

Big Love,

Jillian Xx

 

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HI, I'M JILLIAN ANDERSON. I’m a writer, healer, and a transformational coach, who helps soulful women increase their pleasure, satisfaction, and financial well-being. I'm most known for my six-week group program, Permission to Prosper, where I help women transform their relationship with money, by accessing and harnessing the power of their sexual energy.

I’ve worked with over 200 clients across 53 countries, and I’ve been told (by one of my clients) that I’m the kind of woman who goes for the cake, and eats it, too. Coming more deeply into my earning power has taken years, and I'm excited to share with you the unconventional approach that I take, to helping my clients step into deeper fulfillment and financial well-being. 

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Musings on Orgasm + Upper Limits (Your Body Knows + An Exercise for You to Try Today).

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If you’ve been in my circle for a while, you know that I believe your body is a powerful initiator, and that it’s always communicating to and through You.

Here’s a relevant story: The other night, despite being turned-on, and approaching ovulation, I could not experience an orgasm. It’s not that I need to be at that point in my cycle to have one. It’s not that I couldn’t relax enough. It’s not that I experience trouble like this frequently (I’ve had other chapters, though).

It’s that, orgasm just doesn’t happen for me, when a part of me is resisting good things that are happening in my world, and when good things are trying to enter my life.

My body knows. Whenever I am ‘in line’ to receive something I’ve been working toward, or intending, or envisioning, my body tells me where I need to get my mind on board.

In this case, I needed to ‘let myself have it’ (the good things trying to enter my life). But, I needed to have an inner conversation with the part of me that felt ashamed, guilty, and not good enough, first.

I’m going to bet, that if you’re here reading, that you experience a similar version of this yourself (not letting yourself have it) especially if you struggle with feeling not good / smart / intelligent / beautiful / worthy enough, sometimes.

One of my missions, is to help you cultivate a deep connection, with this kind of relationship to your body, and to your sexual energy. I want you to know that you can trust your body, as your wise guide, and as the mostaccurate compass you’ll ever know.

While you’re walking the path of allowing your Heart-centered desires to come to fruition, it’s vital that you make a regular practice of declaring your worthiness, to yourself. One of my favorite ways to help women access their worthiness is by prompting them to, c h a r g e themselves up with their sexual energy.

And more often than not, on the way to learning to consistently charge ourselves up, we meet parts of ourselves that need our attention and Love.

So here is an exercise for you to try, at home (if you want to):

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  1. Go to a sacred and safe space/room where you can be alone, and undisturbed. Light a candle. Burn something, maybe a candle, that smells wonderful.

  2. Identify something that you really really want (but that you sometimes judge yourself for wanting) and bring it to your mind’s eye. See it, and feel it, in your heart.

  3. Pleasure yourself (if you’re not sure where to start, begin with a gentle breast massage).

  4. Visualize yourself receiving your Heart-desire, while you self-pleasure.


It doesn’t matter if you orgasm or not. It doesn’t matter if this feels easy, or awkward at first. It doesn’t matter if you actually believe you’re going to receive what you want. What matters most is that you’re inviting ALL of You on board. Your entire mind-heart-body -- your Divine physiology.

If this exercise is bringing up resistance, or fear, feel free to email me about it (just hit reply to this email). I would love to learn more about exactly where you are, and how I can help you live your most authentic and aligned life, by working with your body.

Big Love,

 

"I LEARNED HOW TO GRACIOUSLY RECEIVE."

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"Before working with Jillian, I knew I had a lot of money blocks and baggage but I had no idea how to start to do the work of dealing with this obstacle. I felt lost in a life that felt untapped; having so much potential and motivational energy but uncertainty in how to execute it. One of my biggest struggles was to learn how to truly sit back and graciously receive.

Now, I am capable of trusting myself to go into the "scary" places of my psyche; to have discussions that frighten me and to state my Truth. I realized that I don't need anyone to like me because I like myself! I have cleaned up and am taking responsibility for a lot of my part in the previously shame triggering money stories that I had. I manifested the funds to participate in a dream-come-true training to be a certified Gallup Strengths Coach. I'm also able to really be in my body, enjoy receiving pleasure and enjoy co-creating it with a partner."

— Emily Jameson | emily-jameson.com


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If you want to:

+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.