Why Charging For Your Gifts is Scary + What to Do About It Now

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It can be scary to put a price on your spiritual gifts.

Just recently, as I started opening up space in my calendar to take on hand's on 1:1 appointments for maya abdominal work, I have come back around to this lesson.

It seems like there is a line in the sand between charging for certain things, and charging for others, and for me, charging (more than I used to) for bodywork, is an edge, but one that I am being asked to explore and examine.

Here's what I think about charging for your gifts (and what I hope serves you):

It's scary to charge for your gifts because they are so natural to you, and they are a joy to give. Sometimes, they are so natural to you, that they feel like a part of who you are. Because they are an extension of who you are, it can feel scary to put a price on that.

Also: because they are natural to you, and a joy to give, that presents a challenge to everything you've been programmed to understand about what work actually is.

I believe the concept of work is evolving, and that each and every one of us, is a part of that evolution. There are decisions you get to make today, that your mother and grandmother did not have access to.

These thoughts might come up when you go to price your offerings/services:

+ Who am I to charge that?

+ Who do I think I am charging for that?

+ Nobody is going to pay that.

+ Shouldn't my healing work be accessible to everyone?

Charging for your gifts requires that you understand and acknowledge your very own uniqueness. There is no one else who is You. No one. Not one. There is no one with the same childhood, who has traversed the same challenges and lessons, in the unique way that you have.

I feel it's revolutionary to charge what feels right to you, for your gifts.

I think it's changing the economy, the world, and our creative lives. I think it's starting to eliminate the martyrdom that's still so pervasive in our society. And I think it requires a constant coming home to yourself, as good enough, exactly as you are.

Big Love,


Musings on Orgasm + Upper Limits (Your Body Knows + An Exercise for You to Try Today).

If you’ve been in my circle for a while, you know that I believe your body is a powerful initiator, and that it’s always communicating to and through You.

Here’s a relevant story: The other night, despite being turned-on, and approaching ovulation, I could not experience an orgasm. It’s not that I need to be at that point in my cycle to have one. It’s not that I couldn’t relax enough. It’s not that I experience trouble like this frequently (I’ve had other chapters, though).

It’s that, orgasm just doesn’t happen for me, when a part of me is resisting good things that are happening in my world, and when good things are trying to enter my life.

My body knows. Whenever I am ‘in line’ to receive something I’ve been working toward, or intending, or envisioning, my body tells me where I need to get my mind on board.

In this case, I needed to ‘let myself have it’ (the good things trying to enter my life). But, I needed to have an inner conversation with the part of me that felt ashamed, guilty, and not good enough, first.

I’m going to bet, that if you’re here reading, that you experience a similar version of this yourself (not letting yourself have it) especially if you struggle with feeling not good / smart / intelligent / beautiful / worthy enough, sometimes.

One of my missions, is to help you cultivate a deep connection, with this kind of relationship to your body, and to your sexual energy. I want you to know that you can trust your body, as your wise guide, and as the mostaccurate compass you’ll ever know.

While you’re walking the path of allowing your Heart-centered desires to come to fruition, it’s vital that you make a regular practice of declaring your worthiness, to yourself. One of my favorite ways to help women access their worthiness is by prompting them to, c h a r g e themselves up with their sexual energy.

And more often than not, on the way to learning to consistently charge ourselves up, we meet parts of ourselves that need our attention and Love.

So here is an exercise for you to try, at home (if you want to):

  1. Go to a sacred and safe space/room where you can be alone, and undisturbed. Light a candle. Burn something, maybe a candle, that smells wonderful.
  2. Identify something that you really really want (but that you sometimes judge yourself for wanting) and bring it to your mind’s eye. See it, and feel it, in your heart.
  3. Pleasure yourself (if you’re not sure where to start, begin with a gentle breast massage).
  4. Visualize yourself receiving your Heart-desire, while you self-pleasure.

It doesn’t matter if you orgasm or not. It doesn’t matter if this feels easy, or awkward at first. It doesn’t matter if you actually believe you’re going to receive what you want. What matters most is that you’re inviting ALL of You on board. Your entire mind-heart-body -- your Divine physiology.

If this exercise is bringing up resistance, or fear, feel free to email me about it (just hit reply to this email). I would love to learn more about exactly where you are, and how I can help you live your most authentic and aligned life, by working with your body.

Big Love,




"Before working with Jillian, I knew I had a lot of money blocks and baggage but I had no idea how to start to do the work of dealing with this obstacle. I felt lost in a life that felt untapped; having so much potential and motivational energy but uncertainty in how to execute it. One of my biggest struggles was to learn how to truly sit back and graciously receive.

Now, I am capable of trusting myself to go into the "scary" places of my psyche; to have discussions that frighten me and to state my Truth. I realized that I don't need anyone to like me because I like myself! I have cleaned up and am taking responsibility for a lot of my part in the previously shame triggering money stories that I had. I manifested the funds to participate in a dream-come-true training to be a certified Gallup Strengths Coach. I'm also able to really be in my body, enjoy receiving pleasure and enjoy co-creating it with a partner."

— Emily Jameson | emily-jameson.com

How to Stop Buying Courses to Be Better, So You Can Start Teaching, Leading, and Making Money, Right Away, Instead


If you’ve ever had a big breakthrough with your income/career, and soon after found yourself clicking the ‘buy now’ button of a new program or signing up for a new offering/training/certification, this post is for you.

Let me start by stating: there is nothing wrong with investing in yourself. Very often the right program/training/certification, at the right time, will elevate you/help you expand into new territory.

Yet for some of you (you know who you are)... 

Continual learning, study, tool gathering, certification attaining, and program-buying is what’s keeping you from that next level of deep fulfillment (and from making more money in your life). 

Learning more because you don’t feel _____ enough is a mechanism/process you’re using to stay safe. It’s a way you stay small and in your comfort zone. It’s a form of procrastination, and an extension of deep feelings of ‘not-enoughness.’

I know this cycle because I’ve lived it myself. For years I was the woman on the cushion at the retreat, pen in hand, writing myself new. I was the one getting certified in this, that, and the other thing, all the while wondering why I wasn’t yet living the life (or making the money) I knew I was meant for. 

In retrospect I can see that I was addicted to preparation (read as: safety). I was always ‘getting ready’ for what I wanted, and never actually assuming the position of the powerful woman who could actually receive what she wanted. 

In January I broke an income goal, and for the first time in years, I did not buy a program or training in the midst of the increase.

It was extremely uncomfortable, and the urge to buy surfaced, but I held the energy of “I am good enough to have this right now, as I am.”

During every other leap in income, prior to this particular breakthrough, I felt deeply UNWORTHY of the new level of money, which led me to buy things to make me feel more deserving of it. Depleting cycle, right?

Have you ever used education as a way to avoid your next-level? Have you ever used a program to help you feel good enough to have what you’ve already created? Have you ever let the pursuit of tools / certifications prevent you from taking a big scary step into the position of teacher / facilitator / leader?

Think about this: In the world we’re in right now, teachers don’t pay their students. Leaders are paid. Teachers are paid. Mentors are paid. Creatives who put themselves out there, are paid. 

But it’s scary to step into the role you’re ready for.

If you were the woman leading the room, you could fail.

If you were the one hosting the workshop, everyone could point their finger and laugh about how foolish/not qualified enough you are.

If you were the one launching the group program, people could stand up and object, while recounting all the reasons why you're not ____ enough yet to do/say/share that. 

Basically, [insert your worst fear here]. 

What if you chose to feel worthy right now?

What if you said enough is enough to the constant better-ing, and decided right now, to stop adding tools/certifications/knowledge and just got out there on the playing field (where you get to charge, or charge more, for your work) instead?

You don’t need another course or program to be worthy of the money or career you’d like to have.

What you do need is courage, and the willingness to fall on your face and look like a fool.

What you do need is the willingness to move forward, to try new things, and experiment with your life with a light-heartedness. 

What you do need is to face the parts of yourself that are deeply afraid, and to have a real-time conversation with them. What you do need is to step into the role of teacher / mentor / leader before you feel ready, before you feel ____ enough. 

I believe that we can heal deep inner wounds, and self-sabotaging behavior (which is really just us trying to protect us) by making different choices.

My theory (and experience) is this: when we make a different choice, all of our ‘stuff’ comes up in our body and our nervous system, and we get to clear it from our energy field through awareness, understanding, and through physiological responses.

Here are some of the ways you can be aware of this pattern (and transcend it):

The next time you’re purchasing something for your education or business ask yourself...

+ if you can make progress by taking a direct income related action step. Is learning more a way that you’re avoiding the scary thing?

+ PAUSE DEEPLY and step away from the FOMO (fear of missing out) hype, especially if you’ve just hit a new level of income. Let the money fill your energy field, so you can adjust to its presence in your life, before you direct it to someone or something else.

+ Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you’re buying to feel more worthy, or if you already feel worthy, and just want to expand from there. This is a Love or Fear moment. Take your time. 

I believe in education. I believe in investing in yourself. I believe in aligning with mentors who elevate you. I believe the right program at the right time can catalyze your growth. It’s what’s underneath the investment that matters the most. It’s the WHY behind the action/impulse, that determines you experience.

Here’s to you, stepping forward in a big way. You’re more ready than you know. Get going. 

Was this helpful for you today? Let me know what resonates the most in the comment below, and let me know what you’re ready to step into, right now. 

Big Love,