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Yesterday, I cried my face off when my partner was leaving to go back to work. I cried the first time (with our first born) too. I just… didn’t want to move into the next chapter. Somehow, him leaving, represented all of us moving into a different phase, and I didn’t feel ready. Nope, not ready. Not one bit.

I mourn for all the women in my position, and in worse positions, who have to say goodbye to their partners or their support person too soon. I mourn for the single mamas. And for the mothers with unsupportive partners. And for the women who’ve just undergone major abdominal surgery. And for the women with other birth injuries.

The understanding that postpartum care + support is a basic human right, is not ‘normal’ here in the states. Women are generally expected to get right back to it — the demands of the house, older children, and even ‘work’ loom over them as they navigate the biggest psychological, emotional, and physical transition of their lives.

AND most of the time (because birth in the states and other industrialized nations has been hijacked by a system that doesn’t actually understand a woman’s body or her needs) she’s HEALING from trauma/injury that could have been avoided.

I feel tremendously blessed, and STILL, I cried my face off on Day 9. I was able to set myself up for a much more successful postpartum time than last time, because I KNEW what was ahead. Some of the things that helped:

  • Stacking recurring payments for pre-developed products + services (building my recurring revenue as an entrepreneur has allowed a TON of creative freedom).

  • Working ahead as much as I could (by recording content in advance)

  • Setting clear boundaries around client work (I had a clear stop date for 1:1 client work but knew I would continue to write during late pregnancy and into postpartum because writing and creating is like breathing for me).

  • Hiring a postpartum doula (Deby! — pictured above) to help take care of me so that there was less on my partner’s shoulders and so I felt support in a number of key ways.

  • Meal prep (I pre-made a good amount of bone broth and stocked the pantry with the foods I wanted. In retrospect I give myself 5/10 stars in this department because I definitely could have premade easy-to-heat meals and put them in the freezer etc).

  • Intuitively lining up care for my oldest

  • Reading The First Forty Days by Heng Ou and The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson

But this post isn’t really about what I did to prepare. It’s about who I have become, and how that woman is able to RECEIVE on an entirely new level than the woman I was when my first child was born.

Receiving the level of support I set up for myself would NOT have been possible, if I wasn’t empowered around my DESIRES, if I wasn’t CLEAR about my needs/wants, and if I was unable to CLEARLY EXPRESS those needs/wants to the people around me.

Receiving the level of support would NOT have been possible, if I hadn’t done the work of developing a healthy sense of ENTITLEMENT. Yes, entitlement. As in: there are things I now feeling deserving of, that I at one time, did NOT feel deserving of.

One of the qualities that defines an empowered woman, is that she’s able to express what she wants, and then receive/get what she wants, without all the shadow-y stuff. What’s the shadow-y stuff?

It’s the murky energy of ‘I’m not satisfied and I’m NOT getting what I want’ but I’m not even 1) admitting what I want 2) expressing what I want — so I will NOT be able to receive what I want.

Making sense? This is how we open up the work inside my signature group program, Permission to Prosper, Where Sacred Sexuality meets Money Magnetism. We begin with the session, “OWN YOUR DESIRES AND BIG MONEY GOALS” because like I said, if you can’t own that you want something, and then express it powerfully first to yourself, you will NOT be in alignment to RECEIVE it.

Big Love,

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P.S. Are you ready to RECEIVE on a deeper level?

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“During Permission to Prosper I developed the confidence to charge prices for my services that are more in alignment with what I want, and it helped me launch a new type of juice cleansing program that I had been thinking about (but was afraid to promote because I was nervous that people would find it expensive). Not only have I introduced the program to my community, I have already raised the price!

In all honesty, Permission to Prosper literally paid for itself within the first two weeks of starting the course!  The value I received from the course is priceless... ALL of the components in the program have been such valuable keys to my healing process and the confidence I now feel.”

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How to Prepare Financially and Energetically for the BEST Postpartum Experience Possible

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The first time I was pregnant (in 2013) I could not see beyond birth. Everything was about birth. There was nothing else. I just couldn’t imagine life beyond it.  

Now that I am pregnant with number two (we’re due in May), I’m not as focused on birth. Birth is going to happen, and of course I want to optimize our experience, but it’s the fourth trimester I’m really planning for.

During the vital months after my first was born, I had no help outside of my partner, Aaron, who had to go right back to work because we needed his income (and then some).

I didn’t have community.

No meal train.

No frozen bone broth or soup stock.

No help with the laundry and house.

Actually, I didn’t even have a washer or a dryer yet.

A thousand people gave us onsies, and we didn’t need them. We did need more cloth diapers. But this blog post isn’t about that.

This blog post is me taking you by the shoulders, looking you square in the eye, and telling you to prepare. A supportive postpartum requires resources. It requires you shift patterns, expectations, and basically, your entire standard of living.

You deserve that support.

You deserve the resources you need, to hire that support.

Most of us don’t live with our extended family, in community. While your mother, aunt, or sister may be nearby to help out, there’s no shame in doing what you can NOW to set yourself up for the experience you most want, and there are still energetic shifts you need to make. And, just because there are people around you to help, doesn’t mean they’ll automatically know your needs and wants.

When it comes to preparing financially, you have three options:

1. Save steadily and consistently for a duration of time until you hit your goals. You may have a goal to hire a postpartum doula, or a house cleaner, or both. You may also have a goal to make X amount per month during your maternity leave, without working. Wouldn’t it be great if young women (who want to be mothers) were encouraged to save for this long before conception, as much as they’re encouraged to marry?

2. Separate money from time, so you can create sources of income that recur without you doing work in-the-moment. This is what I call a new paradigm of money — one where you receive money for value provided, and not necessarily for time (think: create something once and sell it repeatedly). If you’re entrepreneurial you know what I’m talkin’ about here.

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3. Rely on someone else. Some women have partners who have resources that can temporarily cover everything. Other expecting women contribute significantly to the household earnings. If that’s you, it’s smart to prepare as best you can by choosing either (or both) of the options above.

When it comes to preparing energetically, focus on the following:

1. Know your desires, and own them. There is no point in attempting to ‘find your voice’ or ‘use your voice’ if you aren’t clear about exactly what you want help with. You need to get clear on your primary role and be ready to pass the rest off to your support team. Getting clear on what you do, and don’t want, will require you speak with women who’ve gone through this transition already.

2. Use your voice. Now that you know what you want and what you don’t want, it’s time to practice ASKING for help clearly, and directly. You also want to practice asking for help without guilt. Remember, you deserve this. Growing and birthing a human is epic. It may feel uncomfortable at first to raise your hand and say, “I need ____, and I don’t want ____.” but your emotional, psychological, and physical health depend on it.

3. Get used to doing less, and receiving more. This will challenge your current patterns. It challenged me tremendously (hello, type-a!). If you’re hard-wired to produce results and your self-worth is attached to those results, you’re in for it. You’ll want to practice increasing your capacity to receive support from others with grace. There are strategies, mindset shifts, and embodiment practices I can teach you, that help with this.

This kind of preparation?

There’s emotional healing involved. Self-worth work. There are mindset shifts involved. There are risks that need to be taken, and fears that need to be overcome. Becoming a mother, or becoming a mother again, changes you into a new woman.

One of my favorite experiences with birth is that it connects you even more deeply with your purpose-work. This is because birth connects you to life, AND death, simultaneously. And when you come face to face with death, you start living with less fear, and more intention. You start to claim what you want more readily, because you realize that you won’t be here forever.

Are you excited about gaining clarity and confidence around what you want your postpartum experience to look and feel like? Are you afraid of losing your creative juice and business momentum after the baby comes? Are you feeling unsure and uncertain about how to prepare for your future, energetically and financially?

Do you want to do some deep Soul journaling with me, that’ll reveal to you what patterns and beliefs you need to shift, to make your transition into a well healed, wonderfully supported, and deeply fulfilled mother?  

Whether you’re an entrepreneurial woman who is:

  • Trying to conceive

  • Already pregnant and planning for postpartum

  • Already in your postpartum

  • A new mother

I’ve got a very special PDF guide that I’m creating for you. It’s designed to help you to get clear about the kind of support you want, and help you set up a solid plan for attracting and receiving that support. Think: planning + strategy meets energy-work. Think: your vision all mapped out in one beautiful place.

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Big Love,

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  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

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After the Baby: 5 Ways to Reclaim Your Sex Life and Reconnect with Your Partner

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Your body stretched and birthed, you evolved into a new mother, and your relationship shifted into unknown territory. You and your partner are the foundation for your family’s well-being. A strong foundation that allows you to thrive is built on good communication. 

Communication is key or misunderstandings will start to creep in.

Sex is the best communication. It’s non verbal. It brings your relationship to that telepathic level again. You can work your problems out in bed. Or on the floor. You can forgive, let go, and grow together. 

It’s about coming back to one another despite the changes and challenges you face. When your sex life is alive so is your relationship. Plus, great sex makes you a superhuman. 

Courtesy of a new mother who has been there herself here are five ways you can reconnect with your partner and ignite your sex life again. 

1. Go f*** yourself. 

If you don’t feel sexy, valuable, and turned on then you can’t expect him to be turned on either. Your partner can feel your vibe. What messages are you sending with your words, actions, and body language? 

Decide what you want and be clear. In the meantime, go f*** yourself so you can be satisfied without needing his presence.  

2. Make the Time.

Set time aside for sex. No phones. No distractions. One of my favorite women, Marie Forleo, recently said to me, “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.” 

You've got to put alone time on the calendar otherwise you’ll be busy and sex will make an entrance into your life way less than it should. 

3. Get a sitter.

Imagine this: right as you’re about to hit your personal orgasm glass ceiling your son wakes up crying. Don’t feel guilty about asking your sister, mom, or friend to watch your little one so you can enjoy uninterrupted time together. Make it important, make it a priority. Time spent with your partner is time invested wisely.  

4. Get in his shoes.

You want him to understand how hard it is to be a mom all day long without losing your mind, patience, or car keys. You’re responsible for a little person now. You don’t get a salary and  you’re expected to show up with everything you've got. How about a little recognition, please? 

If you want to keep your relationship alive you've got to kick this thought pattern to the curb. You’re in this together. Open your eyes to the sacrifices he makes. What are his strengths and talents? Compliment him on the regular. Treat him how you want to be treated.

5. Feel Satisfied in Advance.

The emotions you send out into the cosmos are returned to you tenfold. This is why things can go from bad to worse or they’re good and keep getting better.

Create situations where you can genuinely feel turned on and excited by your life. Don’t wait for someone else to deliver the circumstances you need to feel good. 

What can you do today to feel the way you want to feel? Put on a dress instead of those yoga pants. Look in the mirror love what you see. Get yourself some brand new undies. Have fun with it.

I’d love to hear from you: What’s one thing that helped you reconnect with your partner and amp up your sex life after you became a new mom? If you liked this post please share it with all your new mama friends and be sure to subscribe to free email updates here.

Big Love,
Jillian Xx

 

 


WANT MORE?

Go From Overwhelmed to On-Point with Your Purpose Work with the Deeply Supported Mother Workbook

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If you want to:

  • identify what needs to come off your plate NOW

  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.