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Yesterday, I cried my face off when my partner was leaving to go back to work. I cried the first time (with our first born) too. I just… didn’t want to move into the next chapter. Somehow, him leaving, represented all of us moving into a different phase, and I didn’t feel ready. Nope, not ready. Not one bit.

I mourn for all the women in my position, and in worse positions, who have to say goodbye to their partners or their support person too soon. I mourn for the single mamas. And for the mothers with unsupportive partners. And for the women who’ve just undergone major abdominal surgery. And for the women with other birth injuries.

The understanding that postpartum care + support is a basic human right, is not ‘normal’ here in the states. Women are generally expected to get right back to it — the demands of the house, older children, and even ‘work’ loom over them as they navigate the biggest psychological, emotional, and physical transition of their lives.

AND most of the time (because birth in the states and other industrialized nations has been hijacked by a system that doesn’t actually understand a woman’s body or her needs) she’s HEALING from trauma/injury that could have been avoided.

I feel tremendously blessed, and STILL, I cried my face off on Day 9. I was able to set myself up for a much more successful postpartum time than last time, because I KNEW what was ahead. Some of the things that helped:

  • Stacking recurring payments for pre-developed products + services (building my recurring revenue as an entrepreneur has allowed a TON of creative freedom).

  • Working ahead as much as I could (by recording content in advance)

  • Setting clear boundaries around client work (I had a clear stop date for 1:1 client work but knew I would continue to write during late pregnancy and into postpartum because writing and creating is like breathing for me).

  • Hiring a postpartum doula (Deby! — pictured above) to help take care of me so that there was less on my partner’s shoulders and so I felt support in a number of key ways.

  • Meal prep (I pre-made a good amount of bone broth and stocked the pantry with the foods I wanted. In retrospect I give myself 5/10 stars in this department because I definitely could have premade easy-to-heat meals and put them in the freezer etc).

  • Intuitively lining up care for my oldest

  • Reading The First Forty Days by Heng Ou and The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson

But this post isn’t really about what I did to prepare. It’s about who I have become, and how that woman is able to RECEIVE on an entirely new level than the woman I was when my first child was born.

Receiving the level of support I set up for myself would NOT have been possible, if I wasn’t empowered around my DESIRES, if I wasn’t CLEAR about my needs/wants, and if I was unable to CLEARLY EXPRESS those needs/wants to the people around me.

Receiving the level of support would NOT have been possible, if I hadn’t done the work of developing a healthy sense of ENTITLEMENT. Yes, entitlement. As in: there are things I now feeling deserving of, that I at one time, did NOT feel deserving of.

One of the qualities that defines an empowered woman, is that she’s able to express what she wants, and then receive/get what she wants, without all the shadow-y stuff. What’s the shadow-y stuff?

It’s the murky energy of ‘I’m not satisfied and I’m NOT getting what I want’ but I’m not even 1) admitting what I want 2) expressing what I want — so I will NOT be able to receive what I want.

Making sense? This is how we open up the work inside my signature group program, Permission to Prosper, Where Sacred Sexuality meets Money Magnetism. We begin with the session, “OWN YOUR DESIRES AND BIG MONEY GOALS” because like I said, if you can’t own that you want something, and then express it powerfully first to yourself, you will NOT be in alignment to RECEIVE it.

Big Love,

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P.S. Are you ready to RECEIVE on a deeper level?

Are you ready to understand where your self-worth is impacting your ability to RECEIVE and HAVE all the good things life is constantly attempting to offer you? Are you ready to STOP REPELLING and START MAGNETIZING the money, the opportunities — all of it?

FOR A LIMITED TIME YOU CAN GET ACCESS TO MY SIGNATURE DIGITAL COACHING PROGRAM PERMISSION TO PROSPER: Where Sacred Sexuality Meets Money Magnetism FOR ITS BEST AVAILABLE PRICE!

AND — I’ve just added a never before offered extended payment plan to make it easier than ever to get access to this life-changing body of work. Did you know that Permission to Prosper comes with your very own certified Nephrite Jade Egg for sexual energy cultivation. Yep. AND that the first 3 women to sign up will receive a black obsidian yoni egg for FREE as an early sign up bonus!?

Before you click through to read about this program that’s positively impacted women from all around the world (including the UK, Australia, Brazil, New Zealand, Germany, India, Canada, and more!) I need to share a disclaimer with you: THIS PROGRAM IS AN INVITATION INTO THE HEART OF YOUR FEMININE POWER, AKA YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY.

Feeling the call? The soul nudge? The soul knowing? Check out the curriculum below, and join us inside!

The Permission to Prosper

Program Curriculum:

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GET ALL THE DETAILS, INCLUDING TESTIMONIALS, AND PAYMENT PLAN OPTIONS HERE:

http://www.jillian-anderson.com/lto-permission-to-prosper-the-6-week-group-program

Permission to Prosper is regularly listed at $697, but when you join us before Wednesday the 29th at midnight EST you can get in for just $497, and get started for as little as $99 today!

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“PERMISSION TO PROSPER LITERALLY PAID FOR ITSELF WITHIN THE FIRST TWO WEEKS OF STARTING THE COURSE!”

“During Permission to Prosper I developed the confidence to charge prices for my services that are more in alignment with what I want, and it helped me launch a new type of juice cleansing program that I had been thinking about (but was afraid to promote because I was nervous that people would find it expensive). Not only have I introduced the program to my community, I have already raised the price!

In all honesty, Permission to Prosper literally paid for itself within the first two weeks of starting the course!  The value I received from the course is priceless... ALL of the components in the program have been such valuable keys to my healing process and the confidence I now feel.”

— Liz Forrest


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If you want to:

+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access. 

 
 
 

Always Trying to 'Figure It All Out' and 'Strategize' Your Plan into Perfection Before You Take Action? Read This.

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At some point on your journey, when you’re OVER ALL THE PLANNING, and tired of the constant STRATEGIZING, you will decide (or redecide) to just let the mystery unfold.

And when you do, a sudden rush of vital life force energy will be yours as you stop the incessant quest to ‘figure it all out’ before you take action.

Surrendering to the mystery doesn’t mean you will stop moving forward, stop intending powerfully, or stop making your best plans, but it DOES mean you will have access to a deeper level of TRUST, and in accessing that TRUST, the following three things will occur:

  1. You will be 100x more RECEPTIVE. In letting go, and surrendering to your life’s wild path, you will naturally start looking for the golden thread, the signs, the opportunities, the connections — you know, all the magic. And just the act of focusing your energy and perception on THAT, will open you up to a deeper level of receptivity. Instead of looking at all the ways it might not work and all the ways you could fail or fall short, you’re literally winding down this path EYES WIDE OPEN for the goodness, the abundance, the direction, the support.

  2. You will have more consistent feelings of contentment and SATISFACTION. You know what the feeling of contentment brings, right? It brings MORE CONTENTMENT. It means more satisfaction. It means more of that, “wow, my life is GOOD and BEAUTIFUL and SATISFYING” kinda energy. You will have MORE contentment when you surrender to the mystery and magic of your life because you will no longer be wasting massive amounts of energy on the “how can I make X happen by Y date” mindset.

  3. Your life and your work will feel more FLUID. And that fluidity will serve your nervous system. Ever notice that when you’re trying too hard, that you’re not breathing fully and deeply? That your body feels more frazzled and your energy more frenetic? When you recommit to the mystery of your life unfolding naturally — organically — you LET THE HIGHEST GOOD UNFOLD, and your body and nervous system reflect that harmony, that fluidity, and that flow.

What do you say? Are you ready to recommit to the mystery? Ready to look for the magic, and the abundance of support, signs, and guidance that is available to you RIGHT NOW?

Big Love,

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P.S. Are you ready to RECEIVE on a deeper level?

Are you ready to understand where your self-worth is impacting your ability to RECEIVE and HAVE all the good things life is constantly attempting to offer you? Are you ready to STOP REPELLING and START MAGNETIZING the money, the opportunities, the resources — all of it?

FOR A LIMITED TIME YOU CAN GET ACCESS TO MY SIGNATURE DIGITAL COACHING PROGRAM PERMISSION TO PROSPER: Where Sacred Sexuality Meets Money Magnetism FOR ITS BEST AVAILABLE PRICE!

AND — I’ve just added a never before offered extended payment plan to make it easier than ever to get access to this life-changing body of work. Did you know that Permission to Prosper comes with your very own certified Nephrite Jade Egg for sexual energy cultivation. Yep. AND that the first 3 women to sign up will receive a black obsidian yoni egg for FREE as an early sign up bonus!?

Before you click through to read about this program that’s positively impacted women from all around the world (including the UK, Australia, Brazil, New Zealand, Germany, India, Canada, and more!) I need to share a disclaimer with you: THIS PROGRAM IS AN INVITATION INTO THE HEART OF YOUR FEMININE POWER, AKA YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY.

If that frightens you, you should probably ask yourself why, and then sign up. If that excites you, you should check out the curriculum below, and join us inside!

THE PERMISSION TO PROSPER

PROGRAM CURRICULUM:

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Get all the details, including testimonials, and payment plan options here:

http://www.jillian-anderson.com/lto-permission-to-prosper-the-6-week-group-program

Permission to Prosper is regularly listed at $697, but when you join us before Wednesday the 29th at midnight EST you can get in for just $497, and get started for as little as $99 today!

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“PERMISSION TO PROSPER LITERALLY PAID FOR ITSELF WITHIN THE FIRST TWO WEEKS OF STARTING THE COURSE!”

“During Permission to Prosper I developed the confidence to charge prices for my services that are more in alignment with what I want, and it helped me launch a new type of juice cleansing program that I had been thinking about (but was afraid to promote because I was nervous that people would find it expensive). Not only have I introduced the program to my community, I have already raised the price!

In all honesty, Permission to Prosper literally paid for itself within the first two weeks of starting the course!  The value I received from the course is priceless... ALL of the components in the program have been such valuable keys to my healing process and the confidence I now feel.”

— Liz Forrest


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If you want to:

+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access. 

 
 
 

Am I the Mother I Want to Be? Sometimes, I Am Her.

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I remember sitting at a table with two friends last year, when one of them (who was not yet a mama) said something along the lines of, “I know I’m not ready for a child. I don’t want to pass my unconsciousness down the line.”

In my mind, my honest response was, “good luck with that!”

Maybe I was quick to respond because of my own experience. I mean, even after my awakening in 2011, I still struggle with guilt about the way I sometimes fail my son (who is now 5).

You can only do so much ancestral healing work from OUTSIDE the ring.

As in: you can prepare as much as you want before you become a mother, but once you’re a mother (or parent) — the real work begins.

That’s my opinion.

Maybe, like me, you’ll say to yourself, “Holy sh*t, I thought I had healed this.”

There have been dark moments (usually when I’m not taking care of myself/my energy or devoting time to my purpose-work) where I have grabbed my five year old by the shoulders, shaken him, and yelled in his face. Not for no reason, mind you, but because I could no longer tolerate his behavior and non-compliance (which I understand is a glaring reflection of ME).

There have been other things. Like the times when I have made him responsible for the negative shift in energy during the day, or in the house, or between us. Or the times when I have dragged him kicking and screaming to the yard and left him out there until I could get calm enough to handle it.

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Or the times I have outright asked him, “What’s wrong with you?” — all the while knowing how damaging that statement is, and that there is truly nothing wrong with him, but that it’s ME and his behavior or a situation that needs to be addressed with consciousness.

There have also been really sad times when I have completely shut myself and my heart down, and been conditional with my love — a pattern I no doubt lived on the receiving end of as a daughter of an unfit mother.

I won’t go into a long defensive explanation about how freaking persistent, intense, and energetically demanding he is. But I will say: he wants to make ALL the rules, he does not comply, and parenting him is NOT easy.

I’ve invested in therapy. I’ve been doing EFT and EMDR. I’ve read Dr. Shefali. And Peaceful Parent, Happy Child. I’ve read the books about the Spirited Children. I’ve talked to other moms who get it. I’ve talked to moms who don’t.

And I’ve given my child more space to exist as who he naturally is than so many I see fitting their children into tidy little boxes of what’s acceptable — viewing them not as unique beings, but rather as extensions of themselves.

And despite all of it, I still get it wrong, more often than I want to.

Is there more I could do? Yes.

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Am I the mother I want to be? Sometimes I am her.

Sometimes, I lean right into her and I’m proud and relieved. In the moments where I remember to shift the energy intelligently — I am her. In the moments when I maintain eye contact and can hold my role as the energetic container for his intensity — I am her.

When I remember to laugh at it all, that he chose me, and that he IS going to grow into a wonderful and emotionally intelligent young man — I am her.

It’s vulnerable for me to share my dark mom moments, because I know conceptually what the right and wrong (or unconscious) ways mothering/parenting are — meanwhile, my LIVED experience of being mothered is one of consistent abuse.

I’m sitting here right now, as I write this, thinking of a woman I can send this to, to read before I hit publish. Maybe she’ll tell me not to share it, or maybe she’ll say, ‘me too’ — that she also has dark mom moments that are hard to talk about.

One thing is for certain: I know that I am human. I know that I am not alone on the journey. I know that I came, not to be perfect — but to heal — to carry the torch forward for my Soul family and lineage one step at a time, even if that means that the steps I take don’t get us fully to the destination I know is available.

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In my mind I can hear one of my friends quote Matt Kahn. In moments of admitting my faults and sharing my pain, she’d remind me, “you know Jillian, Matt Kahn would say that in the dark moments, ‘you deserve more love, not less.’”

Is it time to hold yourself with the Love and compassion that you know will wash your Spirit clean and clear? Is it time to forgive yourself for your mistakes and move forward? Is it time to love yourself unconditionally, as if you were the child who needed to be held?

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You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to be human. And the more you can allow for your mistakes the easier you’ll move through them, learn from them, and the more quickly you will discover another way — a better way — a more aligned way for you + yours. .

Loving You,

Jillian Xx

P.S. The Prolific Life Now Mindset Coaching Bundle is NOW available! Are you ready to go from overwhelmed and scattered, to focused on and ON POINT with your soul work?

Listen, I know you’re a better mom when you’re making space for your work, your vision, and your creativity. I know because I’M THE SAME WAY.

On the days that I rise early and do my writing, I am far more satisfied, contented, and pleased — and it makes me a way better mom!

I don’t know who said this, but they were right: you can’t pour from an empty cup. You just can’t. When there are other people in your life who need your life-force energy, you need to do what you can to FILL UP FIRST.

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  • move through your excuses, BS, and limiting stories that are preventing you from showing up for yourself, your work, and by extension — your child or partner or family

  • create new habits (that support your creative genius) so you know what to focus on daily to create consistent results and build unstoppable momentum

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Get all the details and get in on this goodness right here: www.jillian-anderson.com/mindset-bundle

Big Love,

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If you want to:

+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.