I met a woman once who said she couldn't put her fingers inside of herself because it made her want to vomit. I met another woman, who in a conversation about fertility signs, said she didn't know how to touch her cervix. She didn't really know where it was.
Intrigued, I started to gather more information about the cervix. I talked to women and listened to their stories. I read books, articles, and listened to interviews. After all, I had been estranged from my own cervix for the first two decades of my life.
I wanted to know why. Why weren't we taught about our cervix as girls and what else didn't we know about it?
I'm sharing this list with you because:
1. The more you know about your body, the better decisions you can make. Especially in relationship to gynecology, prenatal care, and childbirth.
2. An awakened cervix = more pleasure for you.
3. You'll teach your (now or future) children this information, so body-unawareness can collectively stop, and instead, the conscious connection that is required for full-potential living will be passed down.
So, what's the cervix, anyway?
The cervix is the round, soft, donut-shaped barrier between the vaginal canal and the womb. (If you've heard me say 'you can't lose your jade egg inside of you' the cervix is why). The cervix is the part of the uterus that dilates during childbirth, and opens to allow a child's head to pass into the vaginal canal. Whenever I see a photo of a cervix I'm always awe-struck at how identical it is to the tip of the penis.
Here's a photo: (the blue diamond represents where a jade egg is 'worn' and the cervix is the sideways half moon directly above the diamond).
4 things I wish I had known about my cervix sooner:
1. It moves.
The cervix feels lower, harder, and slightly closes during the luteal phase (ovulation ---> period). This is why sex can feel painful during this time of the month. This is the time of the month you likely feel more introverted and introspective.
During the follicular phase (period --> ovulation), the cervix rises, softens, and opens. Nature's magic. Here, your body is preparing for potential fertilization. This is also the time where your usually feeling turned on, sociable, and your creative energy is blooming.
3. It orgasms.
I should say: it lets you to become an orgasm.
The cervix has three direct nerve pathways to the brain. It's orgasm is much deeper + longer lasting than a quickie clit orgasm and is often described as a full body orgasm.
Cervical orgasms alter brain plasticity. What that means: they help your brain reorganize, make new connections, and essentially 're-wire' itself.
If you're interested in 'changing your thoughts to change your life' and the principles of manifestation this is great news.
3. It's a G a t e w a y.
Think about it. This is the very door you stepped through to arrive on Earth. This is the door that your children (if you have them) stepped through to arrive here, too. It sounds obvious, but it's ordinarily extraordinary.
Think about this, too: during intercourse, the tip of the penis desires to meet the cervix, or the gate of the womb. The giver (the masculine) then becomes the receiver (the feminine) and vise versa. Both partners forget whether they are the male or the female and experience a transcendental state of Divine Union.
"This state of oneness is what is sought in each sexual meeting, whether the lovers know it or not." - Mahasattvaa Sarita
4. It can be locked.
The cervix, just like any other area of the physical body, can hold tension from trauma, emotional or physical, and shut down. Many women take this unconscious disconnection from childhood straight into their adult lives.
In this case, it's pleasure potential is just on hold, waiting to be massaged, awakened, and reactivated. The jade egg practice is a powerful way to reconnect + awaken your cervix and I've got a free e-book for you on that.
I don't know who said 'your issues are in your tissues' but a career in massage and bodywork has proved to me, time and time again, that making conscious physical contact with the body is invaluable to emotional and energetic healing.
If you can't touch your cervix without feelings of nausea, guilt, or shame, there are ways for you to reconnect and heal. If you have never touched it, it's time, because knowing yourself first is true power (read as: your gynecologist and partner shouldn't be the only ones up there).
For the first twenty two years of my life I didn't know a n y of this.
It's astounding how women have been sheltered from the power (and pleasure) of the female body. Often, the women that came before us were taught things that perpetuated sexual shame and guilt. Blessed be, because that time in history is rapidly coming to an end.
You can now reclaim the energy that allows you to feel pleasure with no guilt attached. You are safe. You are worthy.
Do you know something about your beautiful cervix that we don't? Enlighten us in the comments below! As always, if you have any questions, ask away.
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