This Is Why You Don't Have What You Want Yet

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A few days ago I was thinking about how a lot of women struggle to shower in the weeks/months after their babies are born. I mean, it makes sense kind of, because all of a sudden you’re in much higher demand… 

But I was reflecting on how I haven’t had trouble with showering this time around (with child #2). 

I mean, there have definitely been days when I haven’t showered WHEN I wanted to shower, but I have consistently showered and cared for my body really well even now that my partner is back to work full time.

ANYWAY, THIS ISN’T REALLY A MESSAGE ABOUT SHOWERING SO STICK WITH ME HERE… 

The truth is, you’re only going to get what you feel ENTITLED to in any given area of your life.

And what I mean by that is:

If you don’t feel INHERENTLY DESERVING of something you’re going to hesitate or waiver about ‘taking it’ and getting it/having it.

ENTITLEMENT is defined as: the fact of having a right to something; or inherently deserving.

I haven’t had trouble GETTING my showers because I TAKE them, because I feel ENTITLED to them. 

The first time I became a mom? Over five years ago now? 

I was a totally different person, who DIDN’T feel a healthy sense of entitlement in the self-care department and so many other areas of life. I didn’t know how things would change. I didn’t know what I would need. I didn’t know about the different stages after the baby or how long they would (or wouldn't) last. 

Honestly, I didn’t even really know myself or my desires!

I also didn’t realize how uneven things would FEEL between my partner and I because of cultural conditioning around who was responsible for WHAT in terms of the house and the baby. Oh, the resentment was REAL! 

Let’s just say that I AM A MUCH MORE ENTITLED WOMAN NOW. 

And being much more entitled now? 

Well, it means that THIS TIME, my hair hasn’t fallen out and I haven’t had postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety of ANY OF THAT. If you’re experiencing any of that (or have experienced any of that), there’s nothing wrong with YOU, by the way. 

There’s a steep learning curve with becoming a mother and our culture/society isn’t set up by women, for women, so WE OFTEN SUFFER until we know what's before us.

And I’m out to change that…

Back to the stream of thought on you developing a healthy sense of entitlement...

I AM WORKING ON THIS SUBJECT FOR THE BOOK. 

Maybe it’ll be in chapter 1, maybe in chapter 11, I don’t know… 

But what I do know (and what I want you to know) is that YOU CAN STILL GET IN ON THIS GOODNESS (but only until Monday July 1st by 11:59 EST). I've also added a pay in full option for those of you who've asked!

Here’s how it works:

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Because you will receive just one chapter per month, you’ll get to go super deep with the material. 

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Big Love,

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Conscious Parenting + Healing Your Lineage with Tamara Iglesias of Welly Nest [A Special Guest Video Interview]

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Holy wow! I recently had the opportunity to sit down and talk directly with Tamara Iglesias of Welly Nest on the subject of Conscious Parenting and Motherhood and let me tell you: this woman is a true powerhouse. 



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Tamara Iglesias is the Founder of Wellynest, a conscious parenting company, dedicated to raising whole beings from the very beginning. Coaching mothers and fathers alike, Tamara helps empower families to live happy and nourished lives.

Tamara’s mission is to shift the way we raise our children by bringing the awareness of self into the parenting journey. As parents, when we heal ourselves, we can heal our children and ultimately heal the world. Consciously parenting from a place of respect, cultivating deep trust and creating healthy boundaries is essential. When parents are supported on their own healing journey as well as supported and inspired to use conscious words, act with intention and slow down to spend quality time, children can development into fully-realized, emotionally healthy adults, allowing the entire family to thrive.

I was introduced to Tamara through a friend, Jana Roemer, and knew immediately I wanted to connect with her, and share her wisdom with you.

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In the following special guest video interview with Tamara you will hear an insightful conversation about what it means to parent with consciousness (hint: it has more to do with YOUR healing than anything else).

This conversation is for you whether you’re already a parent, or planning on becoming a parent in the future.


We cover:

+ How parenting can be easy (I know, I know — you just need to listen)

+ How Tamara got started on her Conscious Parenting Coach journey

+ Parenting as our greatest opportunity to EVOLVE

+ Children as mirrors / deepest reflections of us

+ Maternal lineage healing through conscious parenting

+ “It’s not fair I don’t want to do this work” vs. “What a gift that I get to do this for my lineage”.

And so much more! Watch the full video below:

To learn more about Tamara Iglesias and her work over at Welly Nest, use the links below:

Welly Nest on Instagram

Welly Nest Website

Tamara’s 8 Week Virtual Conscious Parenting Course (with LIVE Coaching).

And if you liked this video interview, be sure to let Tamara and I know that you tuned in, by tagging us on Instagram, and sharing this with a Soul-Sister who might need to hear it.

Big Love,

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WANT MORE?

Go From Overwhelmed to On-Point with Your Purpose Work with the Deeply Supported Mother Workbook

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If you want to:

  • identify what needs to come off your plate NOW

  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access. 

 
 
 

Ready to Receive Support + Money with More Ease? Start Doing THIS. (Plus, a Peek at What I Did to Prepare for the Fourth Trimester).

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Yesterday, I cried my face off when my partner was leaving to go back to work. I cried the first time (with our first born) too. I just… didn’t want to move into the next chapter. Somehow, him leaving, represented all of us moving into a different phase, and I didn’t feel ready. Nope, not ready. Not one bit.

I mourn for all the women in my position, and in worse positions, who have to say goodbye to their partners or their support person too soon. I mourn for the single mamas. And for the mothers with unsupportive partners. And for the women who’ve just undergone major abdominal surgery. And for the women with other birth injuries.

The understanding that postpartum care + support is a basic human right, is not ‘normal’ here in the states. Women are generally expected to get right back to it — the demands of the house, older children, and even ‘work’ loom over them as they navigate the biggest psychological, emotional, and physical transition of their lives.

AND most of the time (because birth in the states and other industrialized nations has been hijacked by a system that doesn’t actually understand a woman’s body or her needs) she’s HEALING from trauma/injury that could have been avoided.

I feel tremendously blessed, and STILL, I cried my face off on Day 9. I was able to set myself up for a much more successful postpartum time than last time, because I KNEW what was ahead. Some of the things that helped:

  • Stacking recurring payments for pre-developed products + services (building my recurring revenue as an entrepreneur has allowed a TON of creative freedom).

  • Working ahead as much as I could (by recording content in advance)

  • Setting clear boundaries around client work (I had a clear stop date for 1:1 client work but knew I would continue to write during late pregnancy and into postpartum because writing and creating is like breathing for me).

  • Hiring a postpartum doula (Deby! — pictured above) to help take care of me so that there was less on my partner’s shoulders and so I felt support in a number of key ways.

  • Meal prep (I pre-made a good amount of bone broth and stocked the pantry with the foods I wanted. In retrospect I give myself 5/10 stars in this department because I definitely could have premade easy-to-heat meals and put them in the freezer etc).

  • Intuitively lining up care for my oldest

  • Reading The First Forty Days by Heng Ou and The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson

But this post isn’t really about what I did to prepare. It’s about who I have become, and how that woman is able to RECEIVE on an entirely new level than the woman I was when my first child was born.

Receiving the level of support I set up for myself would NOT have been possible, if I wasn’t empowered around my DESIRES, if I wasn’t CLEAR about my needs/wants, and if I was unable to CLEARLY EXPRESS those needs/wants to the people around me.

Receiving the level of support would NOT have been possible, if I hadn’t done the work of developing a healthy sense of ENTITLEMENT. Yes, entitlement. As in: there are things I now feeling deserving of, that I at one time, did NOT feel deserving of.

One of the qualities that defines an empowered woman, is that she’s able to express what she wants, and then receive/get what she wants, without all the shadow-y stuff. What’s the shadow-y stuff?

It’s the murky energy of ‘I’m not satisfied and I’m NOT getting what I want’ but I’m not even 1) admitting what I want 2) expressing what I want — so I will NOT be able to receive what I want.

Making sense? This is how we open up the work inside my signature group program, Permission to Prosper, Where Sacred Sexuality meets Money Magnetism. We begin with the session, “OWN YOUR DESIRES AND BIG MONEY GOALS” because like I said, if you can’t own that you want something, and then express it powerfully first to yourself, you will NOT be in alignment to RECEIVE it.

Big Love,

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P.S. Are you ready to RECEIVE on a deeper level?

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Before you click through to read about this program that’s positively impacted women from all around the world (including the UK, Australia, Brazil, New Zealand, Germany, India, Canada, and more!) I need to share a disclaimer with you: THIS PROGRAM IS AN INVITATION INTO THE HEART OF YOUR FEMININE POWER, AKA YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY.

Feeling the call? The soul nudge? The soul knowing? Check out the curriculum below, and join us inside!

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Program Curriculum:

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GET ALL THE DETAILS, INCLUDING TESTIMONIALS, AND PAYMENT PLAN OPTIONS HERE:

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Permission to Prosper is regularly listed at $697, but when you join us before Wednesday the 29th at midnight EST you can get in for just $497, and get started for as little as $99 today!

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“PERMISSION TO PROSPER LITERALLY PAID FOR ITSELF WITHIN THE FIRST TWO WEEKS OF STARTING THE COURSE!”

“During Permission to Prosper I developed the confidence to charge prices for my services that are more in alignment with what I want, and it helped me launch a new type of juice cleansing program that I had been thinking about (but was afraid to promote because I was nervous that people would find it expensive). Not only have I introduced the program to my community, I have already raised the price!

In all honesty, Permission to Prosper literally paid for itself within the first two weeks of starting the course!  The value I received from the course is priceless... ALL of the components in the program have been such valuable keys to my healing process and the confidence I now feel.”

— Liz Forrest


WANT MORE?

Go From Overwhelmed to On-Point with Your Purpose Work with the Deeply Supported Mother Workbook

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If you want to:

  • identify what needs to come off your plate NOW

  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.