Yesterday, I cried my face off when my partner was leaving to go back to work. I cried the first time (with our first born) too. I just… didn’t want to move into the next chapter. Somehow, him leaving, represented all of us moving into a different phase, and I didn’t feel ready. Nope, not ready. Not one bit.
I mourn for all the women in my position, and in worse positions, who have to say goodbye to their partners or their support person too soon. I mourn for the single mamas. And for the mothers with unsupportive partners. And for the women who’ve just undergone major abdominal surgery. And for the women with other birth injuries.
The understanding that postpartum care + support is a basic human right, is not ‘normal’ here in the states. Women are generally expected to get right back to it — the demands of the house, older children, and even ‘work’ loom over them as they navigate the biggest psychological, emotional, and physical transition of their lives.
AND most of the time (because birth in the states and other industrialized nations has been hijacked by a system that doesn’t actually understand a woman’s body or her needs) she’s HEALING from trauma/injury that could have been avoided.
I feel tremendously blessed, and STILL, I cried my face off on Day 9. I was able to set myself up for a much more successful postpartum time than last time, because I KNEW what was ahead. Some of the things that helped:
Stacking recurring payments for pre-developed products + services (building my recurring revenue as an entrepreneur has allowed a TON of creative freedom).
Working ahead as much as I could (by recording content in advance)
Setting clear boundaries around client work (I had a clear stop date for 1:1 client work but knew I would continue to write during late pregnancy and into postpartum because writing and creating is like breathing for me).
Hiring a postpartum doula (Deby! — pictured above) to help take care of me so that there was less on my partner’s shoulders and so I felt support in a number of key ways.
Meal prep (I pre-made a good amount of bone broth and stocked the pantry with the foods I wanted. In retrospect I give myself 5/10 stars in this department because I definitely could have premade easy-to-heat meals and put them in the freezer etc).
Intuitively lining up care for my oldest
But this post isn’t really about what I did to prepare. It’s about who I have become, and how that woman is able to RECEIVE on an entirely new level than the woman I was when my first child was born.
Receiving the level of support I set up for myself would NOT have been possible, if I wasn’t empowered around my DESIRES, if I wasn’t CLEAR about my needs/wants, and if I was unable to CLEARLY EXPRESS those needs/wants to the people around me.
Receiving the level of support would NOT have been possible, if I hadn’t done the work of developing a healthy sense of ENTITLEMENT. Yes, entitlement. As in: there are things I now feeling deserving of, that I at one time, did NOT feel deserving of.
One of the qualities that defines an empowered woman, is that she’s able to express what she wants, and then receive/get what she wants, without all the shadow-y stuff. What’s the shadow-y stuff?
It’s the murky energy of ‘I’m not satisfied and I’m NOT getting what I want’ but I’m not even 1) admitting what I want 2) expressing what I want — so I will NOT be able to receive what I want.
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