A few days ago I was thinking about how a lot of women struggle to shower in the weeks/months after their babies are born. I mean, it makes sense kind of, because all of a sudden you’re in much higher demand…
But I was reflecting on how I haven’t had trouble with showering this time around (with child #2).
I mean, there have definitely been days when I haven’t showered WHEN I wanted to shower, but I have consistently showered and cared for my body really well even now that my partner is back to work full time.
ANYWAY, THIS ISN’T REALLY A MESSAGE ABOUT SHOWERING SO STICK WITH ME HERE…
The truth is, you’re only going to get what you feel ENTITLED to in any given area of your life.
And what I mean by that is:
If you don’t feel INHERENTLY DESERVING of something you’re going to hesitate or waiver about ‘taking it’ and getting it/having it.
ENTITLEMENT is defined as: the fact of having a right to something; or inherently deserving.
I haven’t had trouble GETTING my showers because I TAKE them, because I feel ENTITLED to them.
The first time I became a mom? Over five years ago now?
I was a totally different person, who DIDN’T feel a healthy sense of entitlement in the self-care department and so many other areas of life. I didn’t know how things would change. I didn’t know what I would need. I didn’t know about the different stages after the baby or how long they would (or wouldn't) last.
Honestly, I didn’t even really know myself or my desires!
I also didn’t realize how uneven things would FEEL between my partner and I because of cultural conditioning around who was responsible for WHAT in terms of the house and the baby. Oh, the resentment was REAL!
Let’s just say that I AM A MUCH MORE ENTITLED WOMAN NOW.
And being much more entitled now?
Well, it means that THIS TIME, my hair hasn’t fallen out and I haven’t had postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety of ANY OF THAT. If you’re experiencing any of that (or have experienced any of that), there’s nothing wrong with YOU, by the way.
There’s a steep learning curve with becoming a mother and our culture/society isn’t set up by women, for women, so WE OFTEN SUFFER until we know what's before us.
And I’m out to change that…
Back to the stream of thought on you developing a healthy sense of entitlement...
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