Don't Fight Your Fertility: How Synthetic Birth Control Is Dulling Your Drive


Who are you when you’re not controlled by synthetic hormones? Approximately twelve million women worldwide take the Pill daily to prevent unwanted pregnancy and don’t remember what life feels like without foreign hormones suppressing their natural biological rhythm. 

Hormonal birth control suppresses the normal fluctuation in estrogen, progesterone, and other sex hormones that stimulate ovulation and menstruation.

Ovulation is an important indication of health and is a desired monthly experience even if you're trying to prevent pregnancy. The rise in estrogen that leads to ovulation stimulates creativity and feeling sexy, turned-on, outgoing, social, excited, increased pleasure, and more.

For many women ovulation syncs up with the full moon and is a time to celebrate your creative projects and the fullness of your life.

The rise in estrogen delivers a natural high that you get to enjoy every month. It’s your birthright as a woman. It’s this bursting outward energy that says YES. But it’s not just about sex; it’s about the art that is your life. 

Hormonal birth control robs you of this invaluable experience by keeping you steady on a straight dose of synthetic estrogen and progesterone. It flattens your natural estrogen peak and alters your unique hormonal communication pattern in ways that are extremely detrimental to your health.

As independent and modern women we think we’re exercising the right to choose whether we’re pregnant or not, while in reality, we’re submitting our bodies to the control of the pharmaceutical industry. This is about a lot more than pregnancy prevention.

According to Sweetening the Pill, (a must-read for any woman looking to dig deeper):

“the sex hormone cycle regulates the following: energy levels, memory and concentration, adrenalin levels, pain threshold, vitamin retention, blood glucose levels, thyroid and adrenal function, sleep patterns, body temperature, brain wave patterns, metabolism, and immune system.” 

Tampering with this complex system has an effect on far more than just reproductive function. Altering your natural rhythm has consequences that we do not yet fully understand. When you take hormonal contraception you offer yourself into a large scale living experiment that has not concluded the impact of ten, fifteen, twenty plus years spent dependent on hormones that are not your own. 

The big myth that Allopathic or Western Medicine promotes is that we are comprised of separate systems that function independently. We have gynecologists, cardiologists, gastroenterologists, and specialists for everything. 

"When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe." - John Muir

The myth of separation keeps us from comprehending the true needs of the female body. Let’s learn to see the connections and see that nothing is separate. Each system of the body is intricately connected.

To think we can isolate and alter either of the unique processes of ovulation and menstruation without consequence is foolish. To believe that we can improve upon Nature’s intended design is ignorant no matter how well meaning.

It is every woman’s right to choose when she is or isn't pregnant. This freedom is essential to healthy women and evolved future generations. Critiquing the Pill can sound anti-choice and anti-feminist but it’s the exact opposite. It’s every woman’s right to learn all the options available and not just the options that are profitable to the pharmaceutical industry.

We are rarely informed that there are other ways to prevent pregnancy beyond hormonal contraception that are safe and effective long-term. In fact, we are rarely taught how our menstrual cycle actually works. 

Instead we are ushered by society, parents, commercials, doctors, and friends toward the Pill, the IUD, the nuva ring, etc as if we desired suppression as our Rite-of-Passage into womanhood. 

It’s likely that you were introduced to hormonal contraception long before you were sexually active for reasons like: acne, an irregular period, heavy/painful period, and desired weight loss. We need to ask the question: Is it beneficial to disrupt a unique and self-regulating system while it’s in the process of maturing just to address symptoms that can be remedied by other safe treatment?

If a young woman is not yet sexually active and she is prescribed the Pill or another long term hormonal birth control option, what exactly is being treated? Is femaleness a condition that requires daily medication, regulation, and control?

You are conditioned to believe that if it’s not the Pill (or another hormonal option) then it won’t prevent pregnancy effectively. Why? Money honey. In 2013, approximately 22 billion dollars was made off the Pill alone. Millions more go into the marketing and advertising for big pharma’s hottest patents. Number don’t lie but drug pushers do. 

Hormonal birth control dulls your drive. It keeps you regulated, foggy, complacent. It makes you an ideal functioning member of society, valuable to the economy, predictable, safe, and clean. It stands behind your fear of unwanted pregnancy and takes you away from the woman you could be.

Many women describe coming off synthetic birth control as a life-changing awakening. Many more are enraged that they spent years in the fog of anxiety, depression, and unhappiness. 

You might be thinking: How does hormonal birth control dull my drive? I really don’t want to be pregnant right now, I’m on the Pill and I have concerns. How can I get off safely and let my body return to it’s natural rhythm? How can I protect myself from unwanted pregnancy and what can I do that’s not harmful just in case of an emergency?

I want you to know that you are not alone and that more women each and every day are ditching synthetic hormones to explore empowering alternatives such as the Fertility Awareness Method and barrier methods. You too can be free and take charge of your fertility. 

I'd love to hear from you: Have you felt different on synthetic hormones? Have you come off the Pill or gone back on and noticed changes in mood, energy levels, and creativity? What are your biggest birth control concerns? 

Big Love,
Jillian Xx

Further Resources:

The Effective Natural Birth Control They Never Taught You

Sweetening the Pill by Holly Grigg Spall 


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