They Are Getting Featured, Published, and Paid, but You're 'Still Not There Yet'

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I recently read a really terrible book. It truly sucked in all the ways it could have. 

Beneath the catchy title, it was dry and boring. I didn’t like the style or the tone. It had all these extra words it didn’t need, and it was super repetitive — NOT in a good way. 

The person who wrote this book? 

I have seen him featured on many a big podcast. I’ve seen his interviews all over YouTube. I haven’t watched a ton of them, but the title of his book caught my attention, so I bought it. 

Before I go on, full disclaimer: I’m one of the people online who is committed to promoting what she’s into/what she believes in, opposed to writing about what she doesn’t like, ESPECIALLY when it involves another person’s creative work and in this case, livelihood. 

So, I’m NOT going to tell you who the author of this book is because It really doesn’t matter, and it’s irrelevant to the message I want to deliver today.

What I need you to know is EXACTLY how I felt as I started reading chapter two of this not-so-good and poorly written book.

I felt…

A RISING WITHIN ME. 

A RISING OF ENERGY AND POWER AND DESIRE AND KNOWING.

A fiery feeling that spoke three little words: why not me?

Why. Not. Me?

If this man can write this shitty book, and publish it, and be all over the internet with it, and have people buying it, or at least buying into the idea of it, WHY NOT ME?

Why. Not. Me?

As someone who has been writing her whole life, and someone who has let multiple book projects die in the computer graveyard, and as someone who feels very deeply called, WHY NOT ME? 

Why = what’s the reason?

Not = I don’t have...

Me = what I feel called to do/be/have? 

I know you have moments of this, too. 

When you’re scrolling Instagram, and that person who is in your industry, who has a similar job description or calling as you, has epic amounts of followers and comments and maybe she’s getting a book deal now, etc etc and you pause, you examine, and before you scroll on, you think:

I’m talented. I’m skilled. I’m educated. I’m called.

And whether you realize it or not, a part of you is speaking, and she’s saying: WHY NOT ME? 

I’m going to now tell you WHY. NOT. YOU. 

As in, why it hasn’t been you. Why it hasn’t been you YET...

It hasn’t been you because you haven’t fully claimed it as yours. 

It hasn’t been you because you’ve been dancing on the edge of your work, instead of DEEP IN THE CENTER, IN THE FIRE OF IT, instead of just saying, THIS, this is what I want to do and thank you very much. 

It hasn’t been you because you haven’t reached out with both hands and TAKEN IT, maybe because you’ve been taught not to take, or maybe because you can’t imagine that you CAN HAVE IT.

It hasn’t been you because you’ve decided not to be ready.

It hasn’t been you because you’ve been telling yourself that you’re not there yet!

It hasn’t been you because you’ve been some-daying it. Some day this and some day that.

It hasn’t been you because you’ve made it this BIG IMPOSSIBLE HARD-TO-REACH THING when in fact it is the most natural extension of you, and the natural next progression of you...

It hasn’t been you…

Because… 

You haven’t allowed it to be You.

That book I bought that sucked?

It wasn’t a waste of money (even though I barely made it through chapter two). It may have been the most valuable book I have ever purchased, because it prompted the moment I decided to claim it. 

It was the moment I decided — I AM following through. I WILL finish this current book project and I WILL publish it and I WILL be accountable to myself.

And if someone thinks it sucks that’s cool, it won’t matter, because I will go to sleep proud of myself while knowing I did what I was called to do.

Big Love,

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P.S. If you can’t stand the thought of waiting ANOTHER year to go all in on your dream writing life, the Author Circle is officially OPEN for enrollment, and there’s still a chance to claim a BONUS 1:1 day with me in Tulum (3.5k value). If you haven’t seen this yet, you don’t want to miss out. Go here: http://www.jillian-anderson.com/theauthorcircle 

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This Is Why You Don't Have What You Want Yet

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A few days ago I was thinking about how a lot of women struggle to shower in the weeks/months after their babies are born. I mean, it makes sense kind of, because all of a sudden you’re in much higher demand… 

But I was reflecting on how I haven’t had trouble with showering this time around (with child #2). 

I mean, there have definitely been days when I haven’t showered WHEN I wanted to shower, but I have consistently showered and cared for my body really well even now that my partner is back to work full time.

ANYWAY, THIS ISN’T REALLY A MESSAGE ABOUT SHOWERING SO STICK WITH ME HERE… 

The truth is, you’re only going to get what you feel ENTITLED to in any given area of your life.

And what I mean by that is:

If you don’t feel INHERENTLY DESERVING of something you’re going to hesitate or waiver about ‘taking it’ and getting it/having it.

ENTITLEMENT is defined as: the fact of having a right to something; or inherently deserving.

I haven’t had trouble GETTING my showers because I TAKE them, because I feel ENTITLED to them. 

The first time I became a mom? Over five years ago now? 

I was a totally different person, who DIDN’T feel a healthy sense of entitlement in the self-care department and so many other areas of life. I didn’t know how things would change. I didn’t know what I would need. I didn’t know about the different stages after the baby or how long they would (or wouldn't) last. 

Honestly, I didn’t even really know myself or my desires!

I also didn’t realize how uneven things would FEEL between my partner and I because of cultural conditioning around who was responsible for WHAT in terms of the house and the baby. Oh, the resentment was REAL! 

Let’s just say that I AM A MUCH MORE ENTITLED WOMAN NOW. 

And being much more entitled now? 

Well, it means that THIS TIME, my hair hasn’t fallen out and I haven’t had postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety of ANY OF THAT. If you’re experiencing any of that (or have experienced any of that), there’s nothing wrong with YOU, by the way. 

There’s a steep learning curve with becoming a mother and our culture/society isn’t set up by women, for women, so WE OFTEN SUFFER until we know what's before us.

And I’m out to change that…

Back to the stream of thought on you developing a healthy sense of entitlement...

I AM WORKING ON THIS SUBJECT FOR THE BOOK. 

Maybe it’ll be in chapter 1, maybe in chapter 11, I don’t know… 

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Big Love,

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  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.