How to Prepare Financially and Energetically for the BEST Postpartum Experience Possible

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The first time I was pregnant (in 2013) I could not see beyond birth. Everything was about birth. There was nothing else. I just couldn’t imagine life beyond it.  

Now that I am pregnant with number two (we’re due in May), I’m not as focused on birth. Birth is going to happen, and of course I want to optimize our experience, but it’s the fourth trimester I’m really planning for.

During the vital months after my first was born, I had no help outside of my partner, Aaron, who had to go right back to work because we needed his income (and then some).

I didn’t have community.

No meal train.

No frozen bone broth or soup stock.

No help with the laundry and house.

Actually, I didn’t even have a washer or a dryer yet.

A thousand people gave us onsies, and we didn’t need them. We did need more cloth diapers. But this blog post isn’t about that.

This blog post is me taking you by the shoulders, looking you square in the eye, and telling you to prepare. A supportive postpartum requires resources. It requires you shift patterns, expectations, and basically, your entire standard of living.

You deserve that support.

You deserve the resources you need, to hire that support.

Most of us don’t live with our extended family, in community. While your mother, aunt, or sister may be nearby to help out, there’s no shame in doing what you can NOW to set yourself up for the experience you most want, and there are still energetic shifts you need to make. And, just because there are people around you to help, doesn’t mean they’ll automatically know your needs and wants.

When it comes to preparing financially, you have three options:

1. Save steadily and consistently for a duration of time until you hit your goals. You may have a goal to hire a postpartum doula, or a house cleaner, or both. You may also have a goal to make X amount per month during your maternity leave, without working. Wouldn’t it be great if young women (who want to be mothers) were encouraged to save for this long before conception, as much as they’re encouraged to marry?

2. Separate money from time, so you can create sources of income that recur without you doing work in-the-moment. This is what I call a new paradigm of money — one where you receive money for value provided, and not necessarily for time (think: create something once and sell it repeatedly). If you’re entrepreneurial you know what I’m talkin’ about here.

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3. Rely on someone else. Some women have partners who have resources that can temporarily cover everything. Other expecting women contribute significantly to the household earnings. If that’s you, it’s smart to prepare as best you can by choosing either (or both) of the options above.

When it comes to preparing energetically, focus on the following:

1. Know your desires, and own them. There is no point in attempting to ‘find your voice’ or ‘use your voice’ if you aren’t clear about exactly what you want help with. You need to get clear on your primary role and be ready to pass the rest off to your support team. Getting clear on what you do, and don’t want, will require you speak with women who’ve gone through this transition already.

2. Use your voice. Now that you know what you want and what you don’t want, it’s time to practice ASKING for help clearly, and directly. You also want to practice asking for help without guilt. Remember, you deserve this. Growing and birthing a human is epic. It may feel uncomfortable at first to raise your hand and say, “I need ____, and I don’t want ____.” but your emotional, psychological, and physical health depend on it.

3. Get used to doing less, and receiving more. This will challenge your current patterns. It challenged me tremendously (hello, type-a!). If you’re hard-wired to produce results and your self-worth is attached to those results, you’re in for it. You’ll want to practice increasing your capacity to receive support from others with grace. There are strategies, mindset shifts, and embodiment practices I can teach you, that help with this.

This kind of preparation?

There’s emotional healing involved. Self-worth work. There are mindset shifts involved. There are risks that need to be taken, and fears that need to be overcome. Becoming a mother, or becoming a mother again, changes you into a new woman.

One of my favorite experiences with birth is that it connects you even more deeply with your purpose-work. This is because birth connects you to life, AND death, simultaneously. And when you come face to face with death, you start living with less fear, and more intention. You start to claim what you want more readily, because you realize that you won’t be here forever.

Are you excited about gaining clarity and confidence around what you want your postpartum experience to look and feel like? Are you afraid of losing your creative juice and business momentum after the baby comes? Are you feeling unsure and uncertain about how to prepare for your future, energetically and financially?

Do you want to do some deep Soul journaling with me, that’ll reveal to you what patterns and beliefs you need to shift, to make your transition into a well healed, wonderfully supported, and deeply fulfilled mother?  

Whether you’re an entrepreneurial woman who is:

  • Trying to conceive

  • Already pregnant and planning for postpartum

  • Already in your postpartum

  • A new mother

I’ve got a very special PDF guide that I’m creating for you. It’s designed to help you to get clear about the kind of support you want, and help you set up a solid plan for attracting and receiving that support. Think: planning + strategy meets energy-work. Think: your vision all mapped out in one beautiful place.

Sign up here to be the first to receive the [Deeply Supported Mother Workbook] when it goes live: https://bit.ly/2GaN1t4

Big Love,

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How to Facilitate Coffee Enemas Intentionally to Radically Upgrade and Heal the Body-Mind with Christina Louise [Part 2/3]

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Have you ever wondered about your liver and gallbladder, and how these two very important organs contribute to your vitality, and thereby, your ability to be your best self, and do your best work in the world?

If so, you’re going to love the special guest interview for you, today!

I had the total honor of connecting with Licensed Acupuncturist, Herbal Alchemist, Healing Arts Practitioner and Feminine Embodiment Mentor Christina Louise (pictured to the right), about the healing power of coffee enemas for vibrant female reproductive health!

Connecting with Christina has helped me to gain a new understanding of my own healing journey, and I know you’re going to enjoy this conversation.

The Liver/Gallbladder are often overlooked in their importance to well-being — yet in Chinese Medicine, they are explained to be two organs that are most deeply connected to the health of our Shen, or Spirit. Not only do they process and release toxins/bile from our body, they also happen to energetically + emotionally be in charge of healthy boundaries, anger/frustration, adaptability to change v.rigidity, our dreamworld, and so much more.

At this time of Big Changes sweeping through the collective and particularly in relationship to the Feminine — healthy boundaries, deeper emotional + trauma healing, and anger as an agent of change are all important topics so many of us are delving into.

There is a whole goldmine to be unlocked within cultivating a greater, full-spectrum understanding of these superhero organs as they pertain to your feminine and overall healing.

Get a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and watch our conversation below.

We cover:

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  • The Five Element Theory approach

  • Christina’s first coffee enema

  • Parasites as intelligent entities that enter a host at a specific time

  • What emotions get stored in the Liver / Gallbladder

  • Building healthy boundaries vs. building walls in relationship to the Liver

  • Getting really intentional with your coffee enemas and why it’s vital to deepening your experience

  • Amplify your coffee enema process through emotional healing

  • How to merge physical purification with prayer and emotional embodiment to harness greater energy mastery

  • Energetic hygiene and collective Feminine healing as it relates to the Liver

Watch here:

What do you think? Have you embarked on any liver and gallbladder clearing before? What came up for you? Leave us a comment below! Also: is there a womxn in your life who might benefit from this information? If so, please share it with her.

Big Love,

Jillian + Christina Xx


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  • identify what needs to come off your plate NOW

  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access. 

 
 
 

Be Your Own Sacred Anatomy Expert: 12 Facts You Need to Know About Your Womb

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Understanding your sacred body on the deepest level puts you in a position to be a great teacher and luminary.

There's a 98% chance you didn't learn most of the following facts as a young woman. And if you did, consider yourself on the leading edge. 

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12 Empowering Facts Every Woman Should Know About Her Womb + Body: 

1. It Creates and Destroys.

Your womb is the center of your creative energy. During the time that you're approaching ovulation you will feel more social and turned on. At this time, you are energetically preparing to be penetrated by life itself.

After ovulation, you recede into darkness like the waning moon, into a time of introspection. It's here that you will crave more solitude as you traverse 'the dark side' just before entering menstruation.

Ovulation: You create. Energy builds.
Menstruation: You destroy. Energy Releases.

This rhythm is essential to understanding menstruation as spiritual practice.

When you align your mind and heart with the natural rhythm of your biology you facilitate spiritual growth and understanding.

2. You Respond to the Moon.

As a human, comprised of over 80% water, you are intimately linked to the ebb and flow of the lunar cycles (and to the larger movements of cosmic order).

The sacral chakra specifically, is a yin center, that governs the fluids, hormones, and reproductive system of your body.

3. It's Mega Strong.

It's a multi-layered, super-powered muscle and it's the strongest of 'em all.

During birth the uterus has got a wild job to facilitate. For nine months, or ten moons, the womb expands to house a growing human. Then, during an incredible culmination she rhythmically surges, relaxes, and pushes a new human out.

These surges are autonomous, meaning the mother does not have to direct her uterus with her mind, much like we don't have to consciously direct our heart beat. 

4. It Can be in the Wrong Place.

"When a woman's uterus is out of balance, so is her life." - Don Elijio, Maya Shaman 

The uterus has eight ligaments that keep it in it's optimal position not including the ligaments that separately support the ovaries. These ligaments are prone to shortening and lengthening because the womb itself is designed to expand and move.

And just like any other ligaments in the body they can become strained through injury and cause the uterus to move into misalignment. The longer she stays misaligned, the harder it is to get her back to center.

Wise woman tip: When you are menstruating don't do any heavy lifting. The ligaments are flexible and susceptible to misalignment at this time.

Most OB/GYNs are not aware that correcting the misalignment is crucial for a woman's health. And most aren't trained in the hands-on techniques that can realign her. If you think you may have a misaligned uterus I highly recommend seeking a maya abdominal massage practitioner here. 

5. Gravity Brings Her Down.

Although, it doesn't have to if you keep active and keep your pelvic floor strong. Squats, frequent walking/movement, and practicing exercises with your jade egg will help you to keep your womb lifted and central.

6. It Swells During Menstruation. 

Take one look at the photo below and you'll know why your body wants to slow down when you are bleeding. Your uterus gets BIG. An enlarged menstruating uterus, if misaligned, can press upon the descending colon, or the bladder, or in other directions.

Wise Woman Tip: Start a moon-time journal. Write down what phase the moon is in on the first day of your bleed. Then, note where you feel pain when menstruating and monitor this pain to see if it changes from month to month. 

7. It's Yours Before All Else.

Your body, your choice. A well-meaning physician might want to induce you during pregnancy, or prescribe you birth control to help you with your skin, or possibly suggest a hysterectomy.

Remember, you get to step back from any outside suggestion to check in with yourself, first. This is about learning to trust your instincts and your body as an intelligent and divinely-designed vessel. 

8. Prolapse is Real. 

I had never heard of uterine prolapse until I studied with the Arvigo Institute, likely because I was in my early twenties and the sex education I had received in school was archaic.

Prolapse is when the uterus starts to lower down into the vaginal canal. It's often the result of weak pelvic floor muscles, gravity, a difficult birth, or unresolved trauma. You can actively prevent prolapse by starting a jade egg practice and keeping your pelvic floor strong.

9. A Hysterectomy is Not 'Bad'.

Yes, removing your physical uterus can be ultra traumatic if you're not ready and haven't exhausted other options. But it's important to know that deciding to remove your uterus is not good or bad, it just is.

Your womb is an energetic space that can never be taken from you. 

10. It Carries Karma.

Your womb stores information on an energetic level that has been passed down ancestrally from womb to womb. This is what we call the Mother-line. 

It's no mistake that your mother is yours. You stand at the precise place in the mother-line so that you can bring the next level of healing to yourself, your ancestors, and to this planet.

11. Inversions During Menstruation Will Prolong Your Period.

When we bleed, there is a down and outward energy at work in the body. It is wise to work with this energy, rather than resist. 

If you want to assist your body, and possibly shorten the time you bleed, avoid inversions while menstruating (any posture where your pelvis is above your head). 

12. Blood is an Indicator. 

The color and consistency of your blood is an important indicator of your health. Ideally, you want to see bright red blood at the beginning of each cycle all the way through to the end.

Womb Love + Thank you so much!

I hope you enjoyed this list + found it enriching! I'd be super appreciative if you'd share it with your sister-goddess-friends. Knowledge is power, yes, but only when we're confident in ourselves. Here's to more women, knowing and honoring their sacred bodies.

Big Love, 

Jillian Xx

 

 


WANT MORE?

Go From Overwhelmed to On-Point with Your Purpose Work with the Deeply Supported Mother Workbook

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If you want to:

  • identify what needs to come off your plate NOW

  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

  • get instant insight on doing work and motherhood on your own terms 

  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.