Money Makes Me a Better Mommy. Here's How.

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It’s all related. Money and motherhood. Stress and triggers.

How you mother, is affected by how you money. There’s no way around it. So it’s probably a good idea to heal it — with just as much determination, motivation, and drive as a person determined to heal the triggers that stem from their childhood trauma.

How are YOU doing money right now? Really, how are you feeling about money right now? Do you feel free? Or constricted?

I know mothers who’ve stayed (or are staying) in so-so and even abusive relationships because of… money. They don’t have enough income to live as a single parent right now and to support their children to their standards.

I know a mother who lives on the Jersey shore who’d much rather be living in Vermont, but she stays in Jersey, because her husband loves it, and he has... the money.

I know a woman who is not getting the midwife she actually wants because the CNM is covered by insurance but the laid back and hand’s off CPM she vibes better with, is not covered, and she doesn’t have the extra money to pay out of pocket, on top of the cost of her unpaid maternity leave.

I myself have made hundreds of decisions based on what I felt was available to me, and what was not, and like every woman in that place, I’ve wondered: how do I blow the lid off of this thing and CREATE + HAVE an unlimited way of living?

I’ll be the first to say (if it hasn’t already been said) that money makes me a better mommy.

Money and the incoming flow of more than enough money allows me to be more present, and grounded with my child (soon to be children). From that place, I think creatively. There exists expansion and possibility. It allows me to serve better, and to make better choices.

But when income dips or expenses increase, or both at the same time (we could talk about the energetics of this in another post) mommy might be pulled under by feelings of stress, worry, or fear...

And that’s when the triggers are easily triggered. That’s when the cortisol is high and the energy is frantic and she burns the toast and drops the avocado. That’s when her trigger buttons are bigger, and her focus is scattered.

Let’s dial this in even more because it’s not just the money that makes you a better mommy, it’s your relationship with the money that makes you a better mommy.

Because there are people who’re triggered at EVERY LEVEL.

There are people who start to worry when their account drops below 10k, just as there are people who start to worry when their account drops below 100k, just as there are people who start to fear when their account goes below $50 or into overdraft, and everything in between and beyond.

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So is it more accurate to say that HAVING MORE THAN ENOUGH makes you a better mommy?

Yes. It’s that energy — that abundant, expansive energy — that changes everything.

And how do you get there and sustain that energy? How do you live from a place of freedom and expansion and trust? How do you create MORE THAN ENOUGH? More than enough FOR YOUR SOUL TO DECIDE?

You do the WORK — the self-worth work. 

You do the WORK — the mind-set work. 

You release blame, and shame, and not-enoughness. 

You take the next inspired step. 
You get clear. 

You ALLOW more, into YOUR BODY and life. 

You see HER (your future self) and you lean into HER, everyday. 

You forgive people and release people. 

You surround yourself with people who GET IT and SEE YOU. 

You show up and CREATE what you feel called to create — not because it’s logical, but because it fuels you and lights you up and guides you forward. 

You make daily decisions that feel hard/scary/uncomfortable. 

You CLAIM it for yourself. 

And you don't stop.

Big Love,
Jillian Xx

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Xx


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7 Must-Read Money Books for Rising Feminine Leaders

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Hi Beautiful, 
 
If you’re interested in exploring money-work, and discovering how it can serve you on your path of growth and expansion, I’d recommend any of the following seven books as a great place to start.
 
What’s really fun + exciting, is soon my own book (on the intersection between sacred sexuality + money magnetism) will be joining the list of books that serve women who’re interested in designing their lives so that they can truly thrive, emotionally, physically, energetically, and financially. Yeeee! 
 
Enjoy these books, and, if you purchase one, and glean some great insight in the process (you will), feel free to snap an Instagram photo, share your story, and use the hashtag #PermissiontoProsper. Bonus points if you tag both me (@jillianaanderson) and the author. 
 
I Love Love Love seeing what you’re up to, and watching you step into your power around work + money. You thriving = medicine for the planet/collective. 
 
Without further delay, here are my top 7 Money Books for Rising Female Leaders (and why I so strongly recommend them):
 
1. The Art of Money, by Barri Tessler
 
If you’re interested in infusing your day-to-day money relationship with peace, mindfulness, and well-being, Barri Tessler has got you covered. Her book, The Art of Money, was published by the same company that publishes world renowned mindfulness teacher, Thich Nhat Hahn.

Unlike most books about money, The Art of Money, is not just about how to increase your earning potential. It’s about how to lovingly navigate your financial landscape with mindfulness, and awareness. Bari Tessler, suggests regular ‘Body Check-Ins’ and teaches a powerful framework that I am still implementing in my own life today.  
 
2. Creating Money, Sanaya Roman & Duane Packer
 
This particular book is not for you, if you’re not into connecting with your Higher Self, and the energetic realms. In other words, it’s about a 7.5 on the woo-scale. If you’re interested in stepping more fully into your purpose, and learning more of the metaphysical aspects of attracting money, this book is your guide. 
 
3. Get Rich Lucky Bitch, Denise Duffield- Thomas
 
Denise is so unapologetic about making, having, and spending money, and is an inspiring example of a wealthy + conscious woman in the world. This particular book feels like getting coached 1:1, plus, Denise delivers highly actionable advice + ideas to help you make changes in your money reality, right now. Love her. 
 
4. You Are a Badass at Making Money, Jen Sincero
 
I couldn’t put this book down. I read it in two sittings. Reading You Are a Badass at Making Money was like showing up to a VIP coaching weekend, while on cordyceps, polyrachis ant, and reishi (ask my partner Aaron). Jen Sincero will not only kick your ass into your full money making potential, she’ll also make you laugh out loud the entire way there. 
 
5. Sacred Success, Barbara Stanny
 
Barbara Stanny cleared up so much for me. Deep bow, Barbara, for paving the way for so many women to step into their financial power. If you’ve ever fantasized about someone (like prince charming, a lottery win, or an inheritance) swooping in to save you from your own financial picture, this book is for you. If you’ve ever wondered what to actually do to make money, this book is for you. If you’ve ever wondered how to really get on the wealth-building road, this is for you. 
 
6. The Trick to Money is Having Some, Stuart Wilde
 
Okay, so Stuart can be a little wild, but I Love this book. I love this book specifically, because I was one of those people who rejected society and materialism (from a young age) thinking that the mundane day-to-day stuff didn’t matter in the grand cosmic scheme of things. 

It only took a series of painful + embarrassing wake up calls, and desperate AF experiences for me to realize that my idea of spirituality not including money, was totally distorted and not serving my Highest good. This book is really powerful for those women who may find themselves on the edge of a broken society, wondering how they can be the change, without playing a game that will harm the planet. 
 
7. Tapping Into Wealth, Margaret Lynch
 
This book. This book. This book. Holy Wow, did I ever need to read this book. We each have our own nervous system patterning around money: earning it, spending it, saving it, managing it, and more. It’s really important to get underneath the hood of your money-patterns, and Margaret Lynch is a total expert at this. 

I recommend this particular book to everyone. Really, if you want to change your money-patterns, and experience a flood of positive emotions around money, instead of shame, guilt, fear, and limitation, this book will walk you through some deep transformation. 
 
Enjoy these + let me know which one you’re ordering in the comments below! Also, what are your favorite money books for rising female leaders? I'd love for you to add to the list, too! Let us know in the comments below!
 
Big Love,

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9 Ways to Align With Wealth Consciousness Now

I separated money from spirituality at a very young age.

My mom was the working woman with the money mindset, and my dad was the blue collar guy with the generous heart. They both made good money, but they each handled it very differently.

When I watched my mom manipulate and hurt others with her financial power, I decided that money was bad. When I watched my dad give freely, often to his own detriment, I learned that poverty was humble.

To reinforce my early impressions about money, I was also raised Roman Catholic. I learned about Jesus; his perceived lifestyle, his sandals, and his humility. 'We are called to be like Jesus', my father said.

I did what any conflicted child might do: I told myself a story to protect myself from believing I was bad. One of them was this: money doesn't matter.

It didn't take much else for me to lift myself high above money. That spiritual elitism stuck with me long enough to cause many painful and difficult times in my life. On more than one occasion, I found myself completely stranded, with not a dime to my name. Why couldn't I get this money thing right?

There was more. I was a strong child, and I knew my power. My mom saw this, and would remark, 'You better marry a rich man, because you always get what you want.' I felt extreme guilt anytime someone showed me attention, or gave me money, or gifts, or compliments.

It never occurred to me then, that I could take care of my own financial needs, and that, supporting myself (and my big dreams) would be incredibly fulfilling. Instead, I was conditioned to believe that handling money would corrupt me, destroy my virtue, and lead me down a path that wasn't the sunlit spiritual path I was taught to revere.

I'm laughing as I write this, because money (and sex) are not separate from my God-realization equation any longer. In fact, my relationship to money, and wealth, is an indicator of how spiritually connected I am.

I love money and I want you to love money too.

The truth is, money is neutral. It's a sacred tool. It's a system of exchange. It's not good, or bad. And it deeply serves your highest good. No, money can't fix your problems and heal your patterns, but it can serve you with many more options in life.

I'm inviting you to take a close look at your relationship to money, through the lens of Spirit. If there's anyone I want to see directing wealth in this world on a much bigger scale, it's you...

The one who is connected to her sacred heart.
The one who is a warrior for the people and the planet.
The one who cares about what's happening at Standing Rock.
The one whose life is her art.
The grid-layer, the change-maker, the visionary...

This is an invitation for you to make the experience of wealth a priority in your life. No one is going to sweep into your life to clean this up. It's you. It's now.

The spiritual community has been intentionally separated from material wealth, just as we have been intentionally separated from the power of our sexuality. Both of these wounds, are one in the same.

You're meant to have the resources you need, to do what you came here to do. Even Jesus (I like to call him Yeshua) was supported by the wealth of Mary Magdalene's family as he carried their work across the land. But they didn't tell you that, did they?

If you want the Universe to support you on a higher level you must begin to support yourself on a higher level.

Here are 9 Ways to Align With Your Wealth Consciousness:

  • Stop buying lottery tickets and entering giveaways to win free sh*t, all the time. Know that you're worthy of paying REAL money for the things + experiences you want and begin to command that money into your life. Trying to win (all the time) sends the signal to the Universe that you don't believe you're worthy of actual money.

 

  • NO bartering. You deserve to receive real money for your services and soul-gifts. Become uninterested in trading and bartering of any kind. Receiving a service from someone does not translate into the money you could be using towards 1,000+ things that are of interest to you and benefit to your soul-work.

 

  • Raise your rates. You should raise your rates at least 1-2 times per year for your good work. As you continue on your path, you gain more wisdom and more experience. It's time you factor that (as well as inflation) into your own compensation plan. If you don't work for yourself, you could negotiate a raise.

 

  • More Orgasms. Allowing your body to relax, soften, and open, can guide you into a better relationship with receptivity + magnetism. Spiritual practice naturally strengthens your energy body, which strengthens your ability to draw to you what you desire. Half of making money, is opening up to let it in.

 

  • When someone offers to help you, just say, "yes, thank you!" and receive the help (or the compliment, or the money, or whatever it is that's coming to you). Take a moment and a deep breath, and envision your heart opening up to take in what's being offered. You're worthy!

 

  • Be generous now. Don't wait until someday in the future to start being generous. Identify projects and people that you align with. Is there a reforestation project you want to contribute to, or maybe a water conservation project? Is there a kick-starter campaign that you'd love to support? Start now, even if you start by sending $5. Be sure that you're not doing this out of a sense of obligation, it's important that you really feel aligned with investing in the cause from your generous heart.

 

  • Set up an automatic savings system. You need to pay yourself first, and you need to make it automatic. It doesn't matter if it's $11 a week or if it's $222 a week. Make it happen. Be sure to have specific uses and rules for each one of your savings accounts. Knowing what they're for, and when they're to be used, is what will allow them to build over time.

 

  • Get comfortable with excess. Do you eat all the food on your plate just because it's there, or do you stop when you're full? Do you spend all the money in your account, or stop before then? It's okay to have more than you need, even though it may feel uncomfortable at first. Excess is natural. Cue image of fruiting pear tree.

 

  • Set a new '0' amount for your checking account. If you're always approaching overdraft, you're not going to feel like a Goddess. There's an easy solution to this that requires your diligence and will-power. Instead of letting your account get close to zero, decide that your new zero will be $100, or $300, and work your way up to $1,000 +.

I'm ready to see heart-centered women, living in wild abundance, and creating lasting change on this planet by their own thriving. You've got this.

To your world changing wildest dreams,

Love + Love,

Jillian Xx


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