Don't Fight Your Fertility: How Synthetic Birth Control Is Dulling Your Drive


Who are you when you’re not controlled by synthetic hormones? Approximately twelve million women worldwide take the Pill daily to prevent unwanted pregnancy and don’t remember what life feels like without foreign hormones suppressing their natural biological rhythm. 

Hormonal birth control suppresses the normal fluctuation in estrogen, progesterone, and other sex hormones that stimulate ovulation and menstruation.

Ovulation is an important indication of health and is a desired monthly experience even if you're trying to prevent pregnancy. The rise in estrogen that leads to ovulation stimulates creativity and feeling sexy, turned-on, outgoing, social, excited, increased pleasure, and more.

For many women ovulation syncs up with the full moon and is a time to celebrate your creative projects and the fullness of your life.

The rise in estrogen delivers a natural high that you get to enjoy every month. It’s your birthright as a woman. It’s this bursting outward energy that says YES. But it’s not just about sex; it’s about the art that is your life. 

Hormonal birth control robs you of this invaluable experience by keeping you steady on a straight dose of synthetic estrogen and progesterone. It flattens your natural estrogen peak and alters your unique hormonal communication pattern in ways that are extremely detrimental to your health.

As independent and modern women we think we’re exercising the right to choose whether we’re pregnant or not, while in reality, we’re submitting our bodies to the control of the pharmaceutical industry. This is about a lot more than pregnancy prevention.

According to Sweetening the Pill, (a must-read for any woman looking to dig deeper):

“the sex hormone cycle regulates the following: energy levels, memory and concentration, adrenalin levels, pain threshold, vitamin retention, blood glucose levels, thyroid and adrenal function, sleep patterns, body temperature, brain wave patterns, metabolism, and immune system.” 

Tampering with this complex system has an effect on far more than just reproductive function. Altering your natural rhythm has consequences that we do not yet fully understand. When you take hormonal contraception you offer yourself into a large scale living experiment that has not concluded the impact of ten, fifteen, twenty plus years spent dependent on hormones that are not your own. 

The big myth that Allopathic or Western Medicine promotes is that we are comprised of separate systems that function independently. We have gynecologists, cardiologists, gastroenterologists, and specialists for everything. 

"When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe." - John Muir

The myth of separation keeps us from comprehending the true needs of the female body. Let’s learn to see the connections and see that nothing is separate. Each system of the body is intricately connected.

To think we can isolate and alter either of the unique processes of ovulation and menstruation without consequence is foolish. To believe that we can improve upon Nature’s intended design is ignorant no matter how well meaning.

It is every woman’s right to choose when she is or isn't pregnant. This freedom is essential to healthy women and evolved future generations. Critiquing the Pill can sound anti-choice and anti-feminist but it’s the exact opposite. It’s every woman’s right to learn all the options available and not just the options that are profitable to the pharmaceutical industry.

We are rarely informed that there are other ways to prevent pregnancy beyond hormonal contraception that are safe and effective long-term. In fact, we are rarely taught how our menstrual cycle actually works. 

Instead we are ushered by society, parents, commercials, doctors, and friends toward the Pill, the IUD, the nuva ring, etc as if we desired suppression as our Rite-of-Passage into womanhood. 

It’s likely that you were introduced to hormonal contraception long before you were sexually active for reasons like: acne, an irregular period, heavy/painful period, and desired weight loss. We need to ask the question: Is it beneficial to disrupt a unique and self-regulating system while it’s in the process of maturing just to address symptoms that can be remedied by other safe treatment?

If a young woman is not yet sexually active and she is prescribed the Pill or another long term hormonal birth control option, what exactly is being treated? Is femaleness a condition that requires daily medication, regulation, and control?

You are conditioned to believe that if it’s not the Pill (or another hormonal option) then it won’t prevent pregnancy effectively. Why? Money honey. In 2013, approximately 22 billion dollars was made off the Pill alone. Millions more go into the marketing and advertising for big pharma’s hottest patents. Number don’t lie but drug pushers do. 

Hormonal birth control dulls your drive. It keeps you regulated, foggy, complacent. It makes you an ideal functioning member of society, valuable to the economy, predictable, safe, and clean. It stands behind your fear of unwanted pregnancy and takes you away from the woman you could be.

Many women describe coming off synthetic birth control as a life-changing awakening. Many more are enraged that they spent years in the fog of anxiety, depression, and unhappiness. 

You might be thinking: How does hormonal birth control dull my drive? I really don’t want to be pregnant right now, I’m on the Pill and I have concerns. How can I get off safely and let my body return to it’s natural rhythm? How can I protect myself from unwanted pregnancy and what can I do that’s not harmful just in case of an emergency?

I want you to know that you are not alone and that more women each and every day are ditching synthetic hormones to explore empowering alternatives such as the Fertility Awareness Method and barrier methods. You too can be free and take charge of your fertility. 

I'd love to hear from you: Have you felt different on synthetic hormones? Have you come off the Pill or gone back on and noticed changes in mood, energy levels, and creativity? What are your biggest birth control concerns? 

Big Love,
Jillian Xx

Further Resources:

The Effective Natural Birth Control They Never Taught You

Sweetening the Pill by Holly Grigg Spall 


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The Effective Natural Birth Control They Never Taught You

“No words can express the helplessness, the sense of personal desecration, the despair which sinks into the heart of a woman forced to submit to maternity under adverse circumstances, and when her own soul rejects it.” - H.C. Wright.

Birth control is a primarily a woman’s concern. Most of the methods available that promise to protect her from unwanted pregnancy have adverse side effects that are harmful to her health. Although women are fertile only a few days of the month and men are fertile everyday, women are the sex held responsible for contraception. 

It can be frustrating to navigate the various forms of birth control. So many of us are dissatisfied with the options available. For example, the Pill suppresses the natural function of the endocrine system, builds dependency on external hormones, and can cause you to be attracted to someone you wouldn't be attracted to if your own hormones were the ones behind the wheel. Yikes.

The prescription Mirena glorifies the idea of altering your menstrual cycle to have only four periods in one year. The IUD can cause pelvic inflammation. Condoms made of latex contain parabens. Chemicals for your genitals, anyone? These known toxins can not only cause irritation but can also leave your sacred-self susceptible to infection. 

Good birth control must be effective and safe long-term

Have you heard of the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) ?

FAM is commonly (and ineffectively) introduced in middle school disguised by the name ‘Natural Family Planning’ (NFP). Do you know any seventh graders interested in family planning? This is why most of us don’t remember FAM nor believe it can be an effective method of pregnancy prevention. 

FAM is commonly associated with religions that abstain from most forms of contraception. It’s no wonder most people find ‘natural birth control’ a laughable mystery. What’s more is that FAM isn't taught to us in school because it’s seldom taught to OB/GYNs in medical school. 

“It is amazing to think that women who practice fertility awareness method are often more knowledgeable about their own fertility than gynecologists who are trained to be experts in female physiology.” says Toni Weschler author of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. . 

The Fertility Awareness Method, when taught correctly to women, will dramatically reduce the mainstream dependency on harmful and experimental contraception. This is also another reason why FAM is not more widely known: It’s not profitable to the medical industry. Why teach the women a life skill that would emancipate her from the dependency on reproductive medical intervention? Whether you are sexually active or not FAM will give you the tools, information, and power you need to make the best informed decisions for you.

What is FAM? 

FAM is the practice of tracking and charting the three primary fertility signs of your body. When you understand how to determine when you are fertile you will know with confidence whether you can become pregnant or not on any given day of your cycle. Fact: you cannot become pregnant when the conditions are not right. 

As young women we are often led to believe that bleeding is the main event of our cycle. We become more familiar to disposable feminine products than we do to our own fertility signs. We must learn the signs of ovulation if we are to understand how to prevent or plan a pregnancy. Think of FAM less as birth control and more of a necessary life skill

What are the 3 primary signs of fertility?

1. waking temperature
2. cervical fluid
3. cervical position

The following information I provide is not meant to teach you how to use FAM. It is meant to be a great intro to this essential information. Further and recommended resources include: Taking Charge of Your Fertility and/or The Garden of Fertility

Waking Temperature

Without getting out of bed, take your temperature every morning at the same time. This might be the hardest part for you. Once you get into the rhythm it will be second nature. Some women set a temperature alarm on their cell. I highly recommend downloading the app Kindara for your phone. It makes charting beautiful and easier than ever. 

Cervical Fluid

Your cervical fluid changes consistency and color throughout the month. Fertile cervical fluid is stretchy (can stretch from finger to finger without separating) and closely resembles an egg-white. This is alkaline cervical fluid that sperm can live in. At other times during the month your fluid is creamy. This is an example of cervical fluid that sperm cannot survive in. 

Cervical Position

The position of the cervix changes throughout the month. Ever had sex one day that was super painful and a few days later there was no pain? When you’re ovulating your cervix is in a high and open position and at other times during the month it is low and closed. You can feel the ‘mouth’ of your cervix with your finger and notice the difference. Check out this photo below.

How do I chart?

Charting is simple. Every day collect your body’s data. Take your waking temperature, check the position of your cervix, and note your cervical fluid consistency. Then, take this information and plug it into your Kindara app or printed chart. After a few cycles of charting you will understand your body in an entirely new way.

Where can I get charts?

Download Kindara for charting on your cell and/or print out free charts here.

Is FAM for everyone? 

No, it’s not for every woman. It requires maturity, discipline, and consistency. Regardless of whether or not it is the method you rely on to prevent (or plan) pregnancy, all women would benefit tremendously from learning and practicing FAM. 

Where can I learn more?

The Garden of Fertility, Katie Singer

Taking Charge of Your Fertility, Toni Weschler, MPH

My Beautiful Cervix 

A Message for the Men:

Men, please keep your procreative juice unless you and your partner are 110% ready for parenthood. Imagine a planet where boys and men are taught that their semen is their vitality, their life-force concentrate? What if men knew that by withholding their semen that they would maintain youth, build strength and endurance, and feel increased creative power? Sounds like my kind of planet. Ladies, have your men hold their fire and practice birth control with you. More on this to come...

May the force be with you,

Xx Jillian


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  • map (and start to magnetize) your ideal support system with one of my favorite exercises (SO YOU CAN SHIFT INTO TRULY THRIVING)

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  • take the next-level action steps you’ve been avoiding

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