Self-Love: it’s kinda vague, is it not?
When you think of SELF-LOVE, what immediately comes to mind? Do you imagine giving yourself a big hug? Do you imagine looking into the eyes of your inner child and affirming her Spirit? What do you imagine? Just think about it for a sec before we move on.
Now that that’s done, I want you to call to your mind an area of your life you’re looking to experience transformation in. Go ahead, bring it forward.
Maybe it’s your business. Maybe your money. Maybe it’s relationship. Who knows, maybe you’re looking to transform the state of your kitchen sink in the mornings, like I am. Whatever it is, bring it to the front of your mind. Got it?
What would shift, if you stopped trying to self-love your way there, and instead, you just started RESPECTING YOURSELF DEEPLY NOW?
Really, what would shift if you saw yourself head held high, shoulders back, heart open and in the area of your life where you’re looking to experience transformation you felt a deep sense of unwavering RESPECT?
The kind of self-respect that only comes from needing zero external validation, not from a person, or a result, or an achievement — nothing. The kind of self-respect that commands incredible and immeasurable shifts.
Years ago, when I was studying for my 200 hour yoga teacher certification, I came across the quote, “Respect is love in plain clothes.” I still don’t know who said that, but what I do know is that it has stuck with me, and has changed everything for me.
In an instant, I realized a) that I didn’t have deep respect for someone I claimed to Love and b) I didn’t have deep respect for myself in SO many areas of my life. Instead, I had deep shame, and a consistent practice of self-criticism.
So, I decided to try it on.
Where in my life, could I start to deeply respect myself? And what would that change?
Then the other day, I was thinking about money stuff, and how about I can get into a loop of ‘not there yet’ or ‘not enough yet’ if I am not conscious of it. You know, NOT self-respect.
But the habit of shaming myself for not being ‘there yet’ or ‘good enough yet’ is a habit that developed long before I had any relationship with money, or making money, or business even.
The habit of shaming myself for not being ‘there yet’ goes all the way back through high school, middle school, elementary school, and back back back, all the way back to… life as a small child, you know?
I get hints of where it stemmed from now that I am a parent, too.
In the moments when I expect my son (who is five at the time of writing this one) not to pee his pants anymore, once and for all, for good, and I carry the energy of, “you should be farther along now.” or “you should have this down by now” what I am ultimately saying to him is… you are not there yet, and you don’t deserve love and respect in this area of your life, yet.
Even though I would NEVER say those words to him, my ENERGY communicates. Everyone’s energy does. And of course, my parents, and your parents, and society in general has no doubt communicated all kinds of shame into you.
Back to self-love, and the vagueness that doesn’t prompt an automatic awareness of where you need to shift...
Try instead, turning to self-respect, and asking yourself:
where I am I not respecting myself right now?
where could I respect myself more right now?
what area of my life am I ready to transform? Is there a lack of self-respect going on there?
And then commit to shifting it, moment by moment, day by day, until you’re in that place of self-respect, and your world, your Universe, is organizing around you and around that.
P.S. EEEEEK! IT’S HAPPENING! HAVE YOU HEARD?!
You + Me. 12 Months. $7.
I just announced The Author Circle, a 9 month high-level mentorship experience for badass women who’re building their dream writing career (email me at email@example.com or DM me on Instagram for details).
It includes an exclusive Author Circle event in Tulum and it’s going to be so. much. fun. that I can’t even contain myself.
Visualize hanging with a tight knit circle of women who’re getting featured left and right and writing their BEST content (whether it’s for social, the blog, or a book), for 9 whole months!
Now, the Author Circle is not $7, ‘cause that’d be unbelievable and even absurd...
But here’s what IS $7...
I knew in my heart, as I was writing out the Author Circle, that if I was going to run and lead this group of badass women, that I would need to level up NOW. THIS VERY MOMENT.
Basically, I needed to claim AUTHOR and claim it for real!
You may not know this about me (or maybe you do), but I’ve been writing books and pushing them to the back of the drawer (aka the book graveyard of my computer) for YEARS.
It’s not the talent, skill, or devotion that I lack, it’s the accountability.
Apparently, being accountable to myself is not worth as much as being accountable to YOU! I don't exactly know WHY this is, but it's proven itself true for me again and again.
So, I decided to set up a fool-proof way for me to not only finish this current book project, but to publish it, for you first, and then for everyone else out there in the world I can get it to.
Before I tell you more, I’ll tell you that this book is for women who’re ready to THRIVE in their closest relationship(s) AND their financial lives. #itsbothand
What’s inside this book?
Well, the working title is The Vital Mother, and so far there are insights and stories I wish I would have heard/read/known BEFORE a) getting married and b) becoming a mother
I was truly delusional about:
+ what marriage actually was
+ what motherhood would be
+ what changes motherhood would make to my financial life
And these things affected, well, everything.
I want to help women thrive creatively, and financially, while being the women and mothers they want to be. That's the mission.
So, here’s how it works:
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Now, I know you care less about the details and more about what this book and offering can do for you, so let me tell you about that part:
I TRULY HAVE NO CLUE ASIDE FROM THE FACT THAT I KNOW IT'LL OPEN YOUR MIND TO NEW INSIGHTS AND REALIZATIONS around relationships, motherhood, creative fulfillment, and money.
I can’t 100% know where this is going and where this material is going to take you (or me)! Even if I knew, I would be hesitant to tell you, because the writing usually reveals where IT wants to go, and my job is to allow THAT!
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5. and get you going on living your best life ('cause that's what I'm all about all the time)
More than anything, this offering is a sacred and mysterious exchange...
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