How to Eliminate Lack Mentality + a Vulnerable 'Gifting Circle' Story

When I was living in Louisiana (and first getting to SEE the roots of my own lack consciousness) I was invited into a ‘gifting circle.’ 

Have you heard of, or experienced, one of these? (If not, I'll explain...)

The story goes like this:

I was invited into this ‘gifting circle’, and was told I could make 40k. 

The cost of joining was 5k and the requirements were to a) show up to our weekly phone calls and b) one day be the leader of the calls c) invite two sisters into the circle.

My ‘investment’ of 5k would go to the Queen bee in the center of the circle, and one day as the circle unfolded (providing new members were joining in), I’d be the Queen bee at the center, and receive a total of 40k from the investments of the new sisters who joined. 

Pay 5k. Get 40k. Talk to cool spiritual women on the phone. Why not?

At the time, it seemed like an easy way to make 40k. I said yes. 

It wasn’t a mistake. I don’t regret it. But, I can see now how my lack of belief in myself and belief in general, contributed to aligning me with trying to make money in this odd + unsustainable way. 

I say odd + unsustainable, because… once you make 40k in gifting circle, then what?

I want to focus on three things I learned from this experience:

1. We were gathering (on the phone) to manifest money, and nobody was even talking about money!!!

Nobody was talking about how to make it, how to manifest it, how to shift your consciousness to align with new levels of wealth/abundance, nothing.

We talked about our dreams, desires, and our gratitudes. But nobody really talked about the actual cash or our emotional relationship with it, ever. 

I see this in the spiritual community, everywhere. Just the other day I was talking to an incredibly connected woman who had a total aversion to money. Even the word money made her uncomfortable. I wonder how many people (who handle money every single day) deal with this discomfort without understanding there's a better way.

2. Waiting for a windfall is a waste of your precious time.

Stop waiting. Start changing. Start acting.

We were too passive. We were treating this thing (the circle) like a hopeful fluke. And that’s what it turned out to be. Some women dropped out, some women never came up with their initial investment, and all of us at some point totally avoided showing up for the calls. 

You have money-making power. Make a decision to refine that power, NOW.

3. Are you just in it for the money?

Honest Q: what do you think about someone who is ‘just in it for the money’?

I was just in that circle for the money. I wasn’t in it because I wanted to be a circle leader one day. I wasn't really in it to hang out on the phone and connect with women. 

I didn’t want to be a circle leader, I wanted to be an author. 

Focus on what you want to do with your life. Make your vision for yourself your number one priority. Opportunities to make great (and meaningful) money will come when you make space for your Highest creativity. 

The day I quit that circle, was the day I decided I was going to go make that 40k (and a ton more) through my work in the world.

The day I quit that circle was the day I stopped waiting, and started creating the abundance/money/cash flow in my life that I wanted.

I can see now that I didn’t believe it was possible to make 40k in one lump sum on my own. That’s because I hadn’t yet stepped into a new consciousness around money, and making money. There are layers and levels to this that I love to teach about. 

You can make 40k in a week if you want. You can eventually make 40k in a day (if you're committed/willing to change/always investing in yourself). 

But you have to understand that this is a marathon of self-worth/self-love/inspired action/big risks and you have to believe it’s possible for you. Not just for other people, but for you. 

40k at once was ‘out of my range’ and now 40k feels easy. 

Now, I know this might have been triggering for you, and I can’t speak for all gifting circles, as I was only in one of them, but I can say that the circle I was in, was mirroring a consciousness of lack that I carried. 

I can bet there are some amazing women out there who had great experiences in gifting circles, but for me, the circle was a distraction from the REAL work. 

And I'd like to invite you to do that real work with me now.

Enrollment for Permission to Prosper, my six week group coaching program is OPEN and I'd love to serve you in healing your relationship to work/money so you can step more fully into the NEW paradigm. 

The money struggle is an illusion.

It's time for you to step into a NEW way of being, creating, living, and THRIVING.

You're the one, who is 100% responsible for the life you live. And the power to shift what you want to shift is there, just waiting to be harnessed and directed, by you. 

If you're ready to do this work, you can view the juicy program curriculum here.

This is for you if you ever feel:

+ Like your dreams are just out of reach, if only you had more money...

+ Frustrated and even angry that you have to say NO to things you want and love because of money

+ Stuck at a certain level of income and unsure how to breakthrough to the next-level

+ Tired of the ‘hustle’ and ready to embrace a better, more sustainable way to live on purpose while making a profit

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Big Love,



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