Not a month goes by that I don't fall down the rabbit hole of feeling like a total fraud, despite having created all the things I set out to create as an entrepreneur, almost four years ago:
a) Location Freedom and Time Freedom
b) A Scalable, No-Limit Income
c) Fulfillment Through Being as Useful (and Creative) as Possible
The rabbit hole opens up (and sometimes swallows me) before certain interviews, before sharing on social media, and before saying yes to the next big opportunity.
I feel like a fraud when people tell me they love my work, and that it's changed their life. I especially feel like a fraud when someone says, "How did you do it?".
After working deeply with the medicine of Impostor Syndrome over the last year, I realize the suffering all comes down to this one thought: What would happen if everyone knew the truth about me?
It's a painful thought that will derail you from enjoying your life, and living your vision, for as long as you entertain it.
So, take a deep breath, and let me ask you the question: What would happen if everyone knew the truth about you? The whole truth, nothing but the truth?
Would someone point their finger and laugh at you? Career over? Never book another client again?
Would they discover that you're not really who you said you were? What exactly would be exposed? Would they call you an under-qualified fake, a phony, a scam?
Maybe they'd call up their friends and tell them all: "She's not actually qualified, did you hear? She doesn't have it all together."
Here's the actual Truth that trumps the darkness of Imposter Syndrome: Nobody is perfect, nobody has it all together (all at once), nobody knows exactly what they're doing all the time, not even the ones who look like they do, and, true qualification comes from lived experience, not from a piece of paper.
Suffering from Impostor Syndrome is a result of not internalizing your accomplishments, successes, and your real-deal brilliance.
You've been conditioned to see yourself through the eyes of 'I am not enough' and it's causing you inner conflict. You've been operating from the false assumption that your success is something that's just happening to you. It's not.
Your success, your achievements, the wonder, awe, and financial well-being that has filled (and will continue to fill) your life, is in direct relationship to you: doing the work, getting out of your own way, learning new skills, taking big risks, trying new things, and consistently getting out of your comfort zone.
Congratulations. You're an amazing human being. Have you forgotten?
Don't dismiss the hours you've spent planning, strategizing, and reading books. Don't dismiss all the programs, workshops, and education you've invested in. Most importantly, don't dismiss your Soul's curriculum - all of the challenges and triumphs that you've traversed.
Give credit where credit is due. Reach your arm out and pull all the success you've created into that radiant heart of yours.
Take Action Now:
Write a letter to yourself as if you were your friend, and congratulate yourself for all the wonderful things and experiences you have created for yourself. Remember, write to yourself as if you're writing to your best friend, with kindness, encouragement, and total recognition.