Money Makes Me a Better Mommy. Here's How.

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It’s all related. Money and motherhood. Stress and triggers.

How you mother, is affected by how you money. There’s no way around it. So it’s probably a good idea to heal it — with just as much determination, motivation, and drive as a person determined to heal the triggers that stem from their childhood trauma.

How are YOU doing money right now? Really, how are you feeling about money right now? Do you feel free? Or constricted?

I know mothers who’ve stayed (or are staying) in so-so and even abusive relationships because of… money. They don’t have enough income to live as a single parent right now and to support their children to their standards.

I know a mother who lives on the Jersey shore who’d much rather be living in Vermont, but she stays in Jersey, because her husband loves it, and he has... the money.

I know a woman who is not getting the midwife she actually wants because the CNM is covered by insurance but the laid back and hand’s off CPM she vibes better with, is not covered, and she doesn’t have the extra money to pay out of pocket, on top of the cost of her unpaid maternity leave.

I myself have made hundreds of decisions based on what I felt was available to me, and what was not, and like every woman in that place, I’ve wondered: how do I blow the lid off of this thing and CREATE + HAVE an unlimited way of living?

I’ll be the first to say (if it hasn’t already been said) that money makes me a better mommy.

Money and the incoming flow of more than enough money allows me to be more present, and grounded with my child (soon to be children). From that place, I think creatively. There exists expansion and possibility. It allows me to serve better, and to make better choices.

But when income dips or expenses increase, or both at the same time (we could talk about the energetics of this in another post) mommy might be pulled under by feelings of stress, worry, or fear...

And that’s when the triggers are easily triggered. That’s when the cortisol is high and the energy is frantic and she burns the toast and drops the avocado. That’s when her trigger buttons are bigger, and her focus is scattered.

Let’s dial this in even more because it’s not just the money that makes you a better mommy, it’s your relationship with the money that makes you a better mommy.

Because there are people who’re triggered at EVERY LEVEL.

There are people who start to worry when their account drops below 10k, just as there are people who start to worry when their account drops below 100k, just as there are people who start to fear when their account goes below $50 or into overdraft, and everything in between and beyond.

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So is it more accurate to say that HAVING MORE THAN ENOUGH makes you a better mommy?

Yes. It’s that energy — that abundant, expansive energy — that changes everything.

And how do you get there and sustain that energy? How do you live from a place of freedom and expansion and trust? How do you create MORE THAN ENOUGH? More than enough FOR YOUR SOUL TO DECIDE?

You do the WORK — the self-worth work. 

You do the WORK — the mind-set work. 

You release blame, and shame, and not-enoughness. 

You take the next inspired step. 
You get clear. 

You ALLOW more, into YOUR BODY and life. 

You see HER (your future self) and you lean into HER, everyday. 

You forgive people and release people. 

You surround yourself with people who GET IT and SEE YOU. 

You show up and CREATE what you feel called to create — not because it’s logical, but because it fuels you and lights you up and guides you forward. 

You make daily decisions that feel hard/scary/uncomfortable. 

You CLAIM it for yourself. 

And you don't stop.

Big Love,
Jillian Xx

P.S. If you're curious about the connection between allowing MORE pleasure into your body, and allowing MORE money into your life — my free instant video training 'How to Create More Money Through the Science of Your Orgasmic Nature' is helping women everyday make NEW connections and shifts in the way they RECEIVE.

Watch it instantly, for free, here: https://www.jillian-anderson.com/freevideotraining

Xx


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+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access. 

 
 
 

The VITAl MOTHER Program is OPEN for Enrollment! Are You Ready to Launch + Lead Your Own Group Program?

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Let's talk about your shift into receiving MORE — more income, more impact, more fulfillment — all of it. 



(If that triggers you, I understand, because statements about 'receiving MORE' still trigger me sometimes).



I know what it’s like to slowly and steadily build a community online, but not be making any money through my efforts. 



I know what it’s like to be focusing on all the things the experts say to focus on, but again, not be seeing any direct financial results.



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My first ‘launch’ was of a $9 digital product I created called ‘The VMAP’ and, you may or may not remember that. 

Actually if you do, respond to this and let me know who you are because that’s incredible and I want to say hi. 



What I was saying about not seeing the results yet: at some point, you need to give yourself ultimate permission to be the CREATRIX — the Creatrix of products and offerings you LOVE (products and offerings that solve immediate problems, mind you). 



Then, you need to get those products and offerings to people who’re READY FOR THEM NOW. 

What’s it take? Is it really that hard? What do you have to do? 

Here’s what you CAN’T do:

🔹You can’t continue to avoid the inspired nudges of your Soul. 

🔹You can’t continue to work around the big scary next step. 

🔹You can’t continue to dawdle. I don’t think I have used the word dawdle in one single post, ever. Here’s to firsts. 



🔹You can’t continue to let your perfectionism and procrastination WIN (it’s distracting you from your confidence and your self-worth, isn’t it)? 



At what point will you DECIDE that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH — that waiting is costing you years, money, opportunities, memories with your loved ones, and your growth?



At what point will you DECIDE that it matters less what your family / friends / colleagues think about you and MORE what you think about yourself when you wake up and feel the feelings of ‘holy sh*t I am doing it, I am going for this, I am in alignment with my heart and my life’. 



At what point will you decide that you’re DONE with your own excuses?

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I mean, you know logically and conceptually, that you CAN do this — you CAN create a program that becomes a product that you can then sell repeatedly. A program that gets your students and clients results, without you needing to be physically present in real-time. 

And then, you can go on to create EVEN MORE. 



The sky is the limit. Oh wait, no, there is no limit. 



But there is only no limit when you’re not working against yourself anymore — and when all of you is on board. 

What’s it going to take? To get all of you ON BOARD?



THE VITAL MOTHER PROGRAM IS OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT.

The goal: to facilitate your first (or next) five-figure group program launch (work smart now, so you can have more time freedom and flexibility when you need it the most). 

The mission beneath the goal: to help you create a life that’s more supportive of your cyclical nature as a woman

 (you're not meant to *always* be working, you know?) 

You ready? 

You done with the fear and perfectionism and procrastination?

Get all the details and apply here: www.jillian-anderson.com/vital-mother-program

We're starting NEXT WEEK! 

Xx

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+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

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4 Mistakes to Avoid When Hiring Your First (or Next) Virtual Assistant

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Whether you’re ready to hire a VA (like yesterday) or are intending to hire one in the near future, this post will help you to prepare well. It’s also going to save you from hiring someone who is not really a good fit for you and your needs.

A few weeks ago a girlfriend posted asking for advice about hiring her first VA, and then a former client of mine asked me about the hiring process, and I knew it was time to write this so that more women could benefit from it.

So, if you need to hire help in growing your business and body of work, and you want to do it well the first time around, let’s dive right in:

1. Don’t Hire a Shadow VA (I Repeat: DON’T Hire a Shadow VA).

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Have you ever heard of the term ‘shadow artist’ by artist and author Julia Cameron? If not, here’s the skinny: a shadow artist is an artist in hiding — an artist that hangs around other artists but doesn’t make her own art. In some ways, she denies her gifts (and what she really wants for herself), while she unconsciously fills a void by hanging around others that are doing the work she wants to do.

Look, there are virtual assistants who do NOT want to be virtual assistants, floating around everywhere in the online space. VA work is a means to an end for them. Like, they don’t actually want to take tasks and to-do’s off your plate, they’d rather be in your shoes. Usually it goes something like this: someone who wants to be running her own visionary or mission-based business says, “let me work for someone who is doing what I want to do so I can learn from them while I grow.”

And while the desire to work for someone who is doing what you want to do might seem innocent and even intelligent, in my honest opinion, it quickly becomes a conflict of interest. 



Here’s the thing: as someone who LOVES to pass off the not so exciting tasks and to-do’s to someone else, I can tell you that the energy exchange between you and the VA is everything. You DO NOT want to feel like you’re burdening someone with the tasks you’re assigning to them. NO. You want to feel excited to give them the tasks, and you want to feel that they receive them with arms wide open.

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I know, I know, it IS strange (to me at least) that some people actually want to handle things like customer service, scheduling emails, setting up automations, handling client care, sending agreements, setting up opt-in pages, tracking data etc. etc. but trust me, those people DO exist and they are a total joy to work with, because you feel GREAT giving them those tasks.

What I want to help you avoid here is a) holding back the tasks and to-do’s you most need help with because you feel the person on the receiving end of said tasks is annoyed or not excited by them and b) getting into a short term work scenario in which the VA soon decides that she needs to up-level and step into her vision.

While you will want to cheer her on (rightfully so) you’ve just spent your precious energy and time training her, and now you’ll need to start over with someone new.

My fool-proof method for vetting out the shadow VAs? Ask each VA you interview a series of questions that helps you to see their big vision for themselves and their life. If their genius zone and vision for themselves doesn’t involve working on a team for you, or for someone like you, they’re not the right person for the job. Next! 


The second mistake to avoid when hiring a VA is…

2. Not Knowing What You Need (Very Specifically) Before Hiring.

Make a list of exactly what you’ll be delegating, before you start looking for someone.

What are the programs and apps you need this person to be proficient in? What tasks will you be sending to them? What are you MOST excited about taking off your plate? Keep a piece of paper near your computer or work space, and every time you catch yourself doing something you don’t really feel is the BEST use of your time, write it down. You can go back later and categorize some of these tasks or ‘energy leaks’.

Think of this as you getting clear with the Universe. You’re like, “Hey God, hey Universe, I need a supportive person to help me with my mission.” If you’re not clear on what the person will need to help you with, you’re not going to know how to choose the best fit for you, when you start the hiring process (even though you’re highly intuitive, clarity on this is still so vital).

This leads right into the third mistake to avoid…



3. Hiring Without Assigning a Test Project 



It’s not only vital that you know what tasks and to-do’s this person can take off your plate. It’s also vital that you get to know who they are. Their energy and their vibe matters. You’re going to be working closely with this person, you know? You want it to be an uplifting and supportive match. This is why I recommend having a ‘trial period’ through a test project. After the project, if you’re happy with the way it went, you can officially bring them on board. 

The test project will help you determine things like:

  • Can they communicate openly, clearly, and effectively?

  • Are they late to meetings?

  • Do they make excuses, or do they own their shortcomings and mistakes?

  • Are they happy?

  • Do they have a problem solving mindset? 
Do they gossip?

  • Do they take pride in their work?


  • Are they so bogged down by 100 clients that they bring stress into your business and creative space?

You won’t know the answers to these questions until you get started on a project together. Make an agreement to start with a test project (you of course pay them for this) and at the end of the project you can determine if you want to bring them on board, fully. 



Which leads me to ONE more mistake I want you to avoid…


4. Hiring Someone Who Doesn’t Take The Initiative 



You’re already busy. You have enough on your plate. The last thing you need is someone asking you step by step instructions on how to do something that they can easily google or find the answer for in a forum somewhere. Hire someone who can receive a task, and figure that sh*t out for you, without you needing to be super involved.



If you loved this and found it helpful, leave me an emoji in the comments below.

And, if you’ve started the process of hiring a VA leave me a ‘1’ in the comments, and if you’re ready to get started (especially after reading this) leave me a ‘2’. 



Big Love,



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If you want to:

+ Help your clients get better results

+ Free up time + energy to strategically create a group program

+ Stop hustling for your next single 1:1 session, or low-end sale

+ learn how to go high-end with your rates, effectively

Then, this is for you. Download it below for instant access.